This conversation zooms in on the micro-movements of awareness in form, and how it can choose between the addictive power of illusion or the healing power of oneness.
Year: 2016
Q: I feel so coarse in my self. It barely reflects anything of what’s in my heart and it’s like trying to drive with the emergency brakes on. John: The essence of containment is that you have need of nothing. That frees you to…
Q: I’d love to hear you speak about learning. John: Real learning takes place in your self. It comes about when you in your self are informed by what you really are. The learning in your self takes place when something of your self…
Q: I found myself in a very complicated and difficult relationship, needing effort to soften and love in the face of aggression. I moved away some months ago. That seems right because I don’t fit in the relationship, yet there is still an attachment…
Q: Hi, John. It’s good to finally meet you. My question is how do you deal with damage that was done because you were vulnerable, you weren’t expecting it and you were wide open? Maybe when you were younger. John: By most delicately receiving…
Q: I try to live with an open heart and a soft one, but it’s still weak and I know that an open and soft heart isn’t weak. I still search for shelter from the strong, dark or fearful influences of the world. Do…
Are you ready to be your deeper truth? The person in this dialogue felt there were things he needed to do first, and now feels the pain of having made that choice. He and John explore what got in the way and how to move forward.
Q: I need help opening my heart. (Crying) I haven’t been able to. John: Then wherever you go, give it. Giving your heart puts you in your heart. If you seem to not know how to open your heart, give your heart. As soon…
Q: You’ve spoken about understanding the world and how it works, and then both moving and seeing beyond it. This world is hardly understandable for me, so can you guide me a little in how to be with my child as he starts to…
Q: Over the last year I’ve felt a lot of my old priorities and values drop away and be replaced with things that I felt to be true. Over time and in day to day life I’ve felt myself lose touch with those things…
“The use of sexuality can easily become frustrating because it promises so much and delivers so little.” John describes what human sexuality is really for, and what it takes for us to move in the depth and subtlety of its full potential.
Excerpts from two cafe conversations on building a real relationship: Q: I am wondering whether a relationship I am in is real, and whether we’re a match. Can you help me figure this out? John: To simplify it, stay away from being sexually physical….
