Q: I’m struggling with separating from the father of my children. There is a big split in me. John: It’s nothing that tenderness can’t take care of. Q: We’re stuck in a stalemate. Sometimes there’s a movement from him of reconciliation, and from me…
Topic: Relationship
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February 20, 2022
“The real level of the community is a whole. Everything in that is needed. Everything not in that is not needed because it’s already whole. Everyone is welcomed in. No one needs to stay in. No one needs to stay in for it to…
Q: How do I keep my life energy when I live with a husband that I deeply love, am deeply connected to, but who is very depressed and full of pain? How do I cope with that? John: Instead of being your self to…
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January 9, 2022
“A real relationship grows from the inside out, unheld together. It means that it lives on very little, it’s based on very little. It means that the roots are the same, it’s only the branches, it’s only what is above ground that’s different.” …
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December 30, 2021
“The relationship is going to turn into what the two of you together come from.” What is a romantic relationship really for? Being free is about being the real in all limitations Gentled and quieted within: the end of being a victim Entombed together…
Q: You recently said something so beautiful about marriage that I wrote it down: “A communion of real knowledge found with each other, made with each other.” I’d love you to talk about it some more. John: That’s having every level, within, with which…
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December 13, 2021
“Abandon together for with. With, where there is a touch of meaning, naturally turns into together. Together without with makes human love bitter. In a real relationship, there isn’t togetherness: there are two withs.” In relationship, with is first; with doesn’t mean together: it’s…
Q: I have a question about loyalty. Somehow, I always manage to get myself in a position where I have to choose between mom and dad, and then a struggle occurs. Can you help me to recognize the true nature of loyalty? John: As…
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October 18, 2021
“When the sun is upon you, you love, but when the midnight sky is upon you, you don’t love. When the midnight sky is upon you, you are the quietude of love.” Dialogue One A heart-walk in the midst of anything; quietly surrender…
Q1: Is there anything in particular about being young that people here need to take care of? Or is there anything you would say about being young? John: When you’re young, the polarity in your self isn’t seasoned. Q1: Do you mean you’re not further down…
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October 9, 2021
“Fix each other and you will fight. Forgive and you love.” Instead of speaking your mind, forgive Live forgiving and you live in a hug Struggling to understand secures rigidity An unheld-together marriage; forgive instead of fix Intimacy makes family, not your efforts Everything…
Q: Hello, John. My partner and I have been living together for the past six months. Many times I’ve wondered whether that was kind or skillful because of the pain and suffering that arise in the relationship. If I had had my time over,…
