Questions About Pain and Suffering
“Pain is like guilt, or shame. There’s goodness in guilt and in shame, only for some moments, enough for you to realize from within your relationship with knowledge. You realize something that you know.
When you are real in that pain, ‘real’ as in you are letting in the intimacy of being, and you’re letting that intimacy of being have feeling and have thought, have your seeing, then your pain soon turns to joy.”
Latest YouTube Video on Pain and Suffering
Freed From the Burden of Your Pain and Frustration
November 2, 2018 @ 7:15pm
Frustrated by a lack of understanding, this questioner feels he’s not getting the help he needs to connect with his heart and the honesty John speaks of. By way of a simple metaphor, John illustrates the way out of frustration into surrender.
Latest Podcast on Pain and Suffering
John de Ruiter Podcast 484
Your Real, Deeper Happiness
March 27, 2014 @ 7:15pm
Have you ever felt the victim of a broken agreement? John explains the difference between the hurt that comes with broken trust, and the emotional reactivity in becoming a victim. He exposes the core belief that lies beneath and keeps us dependent on others for our own happiness.
Latest Transcript on Pain and Suffering
How To Be With Stress And Tension
November 2, 2022
Q: My question is about the stress and tension I find myself in in daily life, yet my calling is to softness. When I hear you speak, part of me is so happy just listening to your words. That part is more connected to the softness. How can I follow that calling?
John: Without hesitation. Don’t relieve your stress. Relieve your heart by responding to it, even under stress.
Q: How? The stress is very loud and dominant.
John: It’s all bark, and it has no bite. Respond to your heart while stress is barking at you. While it barks, give your listening ear to your heart. Stress is good for you when you’re in your heart.
Q: What about the tension I feel in my body that’s connected to the stress? How do you suggest I be with that?
John: Don’t feed it by addressing it. While there’s tension in your body, feed what you know in your heart by completely addressing what you know in your heart.
When you are one with what you know in your heart, you’ll naturally respond to tension by entering it. As you enter it, it opens and its energy converts to be a part of you. Tension transforms into available energy as soon as you enter it, but it needs to be pure you that enters it. The part of you that isn’t pure when you enter tension feeds that tension.
Relieve your heart instead of the tension by entering your heart completely while there’s tension in your body.
Q: Thank you.
