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Are You Romanticizing Spirituality?
July 21, 2021 @ 12:00am
“The truth within is first all romanticized, until you’re in the desert, where all self-consolation, self-promise, self-hope has expired, and there you are in the quietude of your heart in a depth of listening within. You need no results. You need no fruit. You need no light at the end of the tunnel. You need no promise of anything. All you are is true. There’s nothing else to you, and the beingness of that is love. Love, all on its own, naturally undaunted by absolutely anything. That’s what you really are.”
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Frustrated by a lack of understanding, this questioner feels he’s not getting the help he needs to connect with his heart and the honesty John speaks of. By way of a simple metaphor, John illustrates the way out of frustration into surrender.
John gives a surprising response to this young man’s wish to be free of his addictions. Don’t stop! But he leaves the questioner with the key to his heart, and the freedom he’s looking for.
A painful physical experience has woken this man up to his body and the power of love in healing. He's shocked to see how he's neglected his body and wants to change, but how? John encourages him to let his feelings of guilt create a love-relationship with his body starting with the simple enjoyment of being in it “in the little things”.
“I'm haunted by my abusive past. How can I let it go?” John shows us how our beliefs are embodied in our nervous system, creating experience we make our reality. He shows how real healing doesn't come from understanding but from something much simpler: unconditional openness and softness of heart.
There are so many things we can complain about. But what if we didn't? What if we only expressed what we like? What would that do to our life? Listen to this talk to find out.
In this Q&A dialogue, John speaks about how to stay in the heart when others attack or offend you.
The dialogue covers several topics including:
• Reactivity and polarization. The reactivity betrays a false, illusory investment.
• Being honest to your self blinds you.
• Being beautifully vulnerable: No filters, no boundaries, no shields, no protection of any kind – you will feel everything. Everything that touches your self from anyone, from anything, is free to go right into you, right through you.
• Instead of reacting – open. When someone loves you – open. When someone is nasty to you – open. Then you are being what you really are.
In this Q&A dialogue after watching the movie “The Tiger: An Old Hunter's Tale” the questioner asks about how to let go of the false story you’ve let define you and truly live life to the fullest.
In this Q&A dialogue, the questioner speaks about the emptiness in his heart. He brings it up because he is experiencing a hole, an emptiness, the source of all his addictions, wanting to fill it, and being a victim of it. Watch the video to find out what John says about that emptiness, regardless and despite the distractions one may experience.
John talks about how to relate to trauma during a crisis. He speaks to the repetitive nature of trauma as it re-occurs like in the movie “Groundhog Day”, and how we can open and love within that trauma, or get lost in “The Matrix”.
John explains that as soon as you are really listening within, you lose sight of your pain and suffering and magicalness begins to see. Awareness is freed to be the unseen levels of reality, moving and expressing; your return to innocence.
In this dialogue a questioner asks John about how to heal depression. Recorded at ABC Carpet & Home in New York.
