Questioning his own honesty in his relationship with his wife, the man in this dialogue asks how he can love her ‘rightly’, wondering if pain is a necessary part of the equation.
A woman asks how to open her heart despite the fear and pain she experiences. John describes how opening beyond any comfort zone and giving all of your power to your heart is the transformation and ultimately, healing of your self.
This man both loves and fears a space in which he loses interest in the world, asking himself how, in the midst of that, he will pay the bills? And what does John mean when he says “die before you die?” A reassuring, inviting dialogue about what we’re really here for.
“A fundamental shift is when you ground directly into what you know, instead of into your experience and into your self. That changes your destiny.”
Is it important to be close to someone who can help me deepen my awareness, or can I do it myself? John explains what it is about proximity to a living example that works, and how it accelerates entrance into what we know matters most.
“What makes it possible is not your self, but you. It’s your presence, lived, that changes your body into all of its deeper bodies, that your self is drawn into and turned into.”
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
