599 – Parenting: What Your Child Really Wants from You
John responds to a mother’s wish to understand why her young daughter still seems unhappy, despite her best efforts at parenting.
Q: John, I’m curious about the connection to devotion, in your understanding.
John: Devotion is like a river and there’s so many different movements of that same river, Where the river moves through a very small and shallow opening then the river is wild, powerful and turbulent. So the expression is immense. But where that river pours into a reservoir, like a lake, the river still moves through that lake to its outlet, but its movement is so deep and subtle. So if you are relating to devotion, relate to its entire spectrum without being confined to the kind of devotion that’s emotionally appealing.
Q: As I’ve gotten older sometimes just a sound takes me into what I believe is devotion. It’s like slipping into my heart. Yet I wondered if that was my form of relationship or if it was a more comfortable way for me to know my self.
John: What matters is for your devotion to be unconditioned, so then your devotion is the most still presence within of what you really are that just quietly sees. It’s able to move and doesn’t need to. And then for you to relate that way while your personality is under pressure; for you to quietly relate that way within, while in social situations, while you’re with people who are more difficult to be with, while you’re with people or situations that has a lot of demand on you. That’s where the depth and the quietude of devotion really matters.
So then you’re able to consciously be what you see in a newborn baby while you’re in a loud social situation, and laughing; that you’re not separate from your beginnings, that you know your roots and how deeply they go, so then when you are way out into your leaves interacting with your environment, that that’s all connected to the finest, deepest roots within. And that you live spanning all of those levels of awareness, that being way out into your leaves doesn’t remove you from your roots. The way that you are in your leaves is an expression of what you are in your deepest, finest roots. Then you’re connected all the way through.
Q: I’m seeing what you’re saying, and my recognition is that I always had that with my self and then now it’s time to take it out and I’ve been growing from one stage to another. It’s almost as if you don’t share it. But I understand what you’re saying, thank you.
John: Then it’s for you to let that come up into your face and into your eyes, regardless of who you’re with and regardless of what that person is like. So in that way, your heart freely comes up into your face and into your eyes without that being conditioned on how someone treats you. That makes what you really are real, all the way through to your face. Then what you really are within the various circumstances of your life really has your face. What you really are has a face.
599 – Parenting: What Your Child Really Wants from You
John responds to a mother’s wish to understand why her young daughter still seems unhappy, despite her best efforts at parenting.
598 – The Person, the Self and the Being: Identifying the Many Levels of You (Part 2)
This dialogue is a continuation of last week’s podcast 597. John speaks about what ego is, the power we have to create mystery to conceal what is clear, and what takes us deeper than personal integrity.
597 – The Person, the Self and the Being: Identifying the Many Levels of You (Part 1)
Person, self, being … what’s the difference and what is real? Using different analogies, John explains how our different levels connect and shares the code to being what we really are.
596 – Beyond Sadness and Pain: Happy Without a Reason
John reveals the source of the deep well of sadness and pain this person carries, and shares how she can reconnect with her original happiness.
595 – When a Crumb of Truth in Your Heart is Your Home
John responds to a spiritual dilemma: a desperate longing for realization, coupled with the fear of nothingness that seems to come with it.
594 – Fully Present in Your Body, Fully Present in Your Heart
Closing down to the experience of vulnerability can mean dissociating from the body. John shares a simple way to become more present however uncomfortable we feel.
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
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