Questions About Feelings and Emotions

“When you’re sailing you feel the whole boat, you feel all the tensions and you’re also in touch with the pressure on the keel.

You have a sense of all the stresses within the entire boat, including the stresses that are unseen beneath the water because the keel registers into the rest of the boat.”

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The Inner Quietude of You

January 22, 2022 @ 11:00am

An unfamiliar depth of love has opened in this person. It feels scary and likely to change her life. What’s happening and where will it take her?

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John de Ruiter Podcast 519

Your Awakening Gives to Existence

September 19, 2011 @ 2:00pm

Could simply trusting in existence be the key to happiness and peace? Using an analogy from nature, John explains how easy it is draw a false conclusion about the source of awakening and realization.

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Young People Speak With John: On Fear And Anger

April 14, 2023

Two young people put their questions to John at an open mic: Q1: What is fear? John: When you focus on something that’s not nurturing and real inside, then you separate from what’s nurturing and real. As soon as you’re separate from what’s nurturing and real, you’ll fear because the nurture and the real isn’t there, so what you’re...

Two young people put their questions to John at an open mic:

Q1: What is fear?

John: When you focus on something that’s not nurturing and real inside, then you separate from what’s nurturing and real. As soon as you’re separate from what’s nurturing and real, you’ll fear because the nurture and the real isn’t there, so what you’re left with is lack that’s represented in your emotions.

When you have fear that means that you’ve created some distance from what’s nurtureful inside, such as a restedness, a really quiet okayness, a tenderness. Go away from tenderness inside and you’ll fear. Inside of the tenderness there is no fear. 

Q2: How do I handle my anger?

John: In one way the feeling of anger is really good because it quickly tells you that you’re believing something that’s not true. So as soon as you feel angry, let go of everything that you’re thinking until your heart becomes open and settled again. As soon as your heart is opened and settled again, you’re really there. While you’re angry your heart is closed and hard, and you’re no longer really there in your heart. 

When you’re angry, you’re caught in something that isn’t real. As soon as you’re angry, let go of what you’re thinking and what you’re feeling. As soon as you do, your heart opens again. When your heart is open, instead of being upset, you’ll love.

When you’re angry, what that really means is that you’ve tricked your self.  You’ve tricked your self into believing something that isn’t true and that isn’t real. 

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Being Your Deeper Heart: Moving as a Being Without Fear

November 19, 2022

“There’s only one right and it’s absolute: the real, any of it, all of it, has right to any and all of you. But it won’t use it.”   Trust is an emotion; it may or may not be a result of knowledge Relaxing into deeper knowledge isn’t for or about your self Embodying the deep within; a different, wholeness self Trust is really a movement of innocence Stepping into the real, regardless of any trauma Warmly blind; warmed...

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