January 18, 2023 @ 11:00am
The feeling of spiritual fulfillment easily flows into a wish to teach or share with others, but what makes a person ready to take such a step?
How is it possible to stay in your heart with those things in this world you really don’t feel okay about? John’s answer reveals what creates disturbance within, and how to move past it.
Q: I wanted to ask you, sort of related to what your last talk was: “anything you don’t like keeps you trapped in it.” And you recommended he stay in his heart. And I don’t know what that means. Or do you mean to bring our awareness to our heart centre?
John: It’s for you to be the warmth in your heart centre; you being gentled and quieted within, despite anything you experience.
Q: But what if my inner environment is not gentle and quiet? What do I do?
John: Be in the same thing that occurs when you lie down to go to sleep; you relax at a fundamental level; your self, your past, your day, all goes away, and then there is just you.
Q: Sometimes when I go to sleep it feels like my day doesn’t just go away.
John: When you lie down your day continues, but as you reach the tipping point of sleep everything passes away.
Q: How can I be okay with sleep but not with that?
John: That’s right. When you’re awake your life is all about your self. You become denuded, warmly denuded of your life as you reach the tipping point to sleep.
Q: I don’t know if I like the way that the world is heading, and….
John: That will all be gone for you when you die.
Q: So how can I just be okay with the way that things are?
John: By you being what is deeply, quietly permanent, not subject to your self, your experience, your body, others, the world, and that’s your life. That you be what you are after you’ve died while you live.
Q: It’s like experiencing every emotion all at once.
John: You being told that you’re going to die in an hour, you would also experience every emotion all at once. But you don’t have that when you reach the tipping point to sleep. You are most profoundly at home in being nobody and nothing. Your life excites you and disturbs you because you have become something and somebody. The substance of something and somebody, that substance adhered to within, is illusory.
Q: Can you say it again?
John: The matter within, of being a somebody, positively or negatively, is illusory.
Q: I‘d like to know how my worldly attachments tie into this. Because it seems like money is a big one and…
John: They don’t tie into this. You tie money into this which makes this go away, seemingly. Really you’re just covering it up, covering the real, living for what’s mentally and emotionally illusory. You’re living with stories, positive and negative about your self, about others, about the world, about your life. None of that is real. That way of being in existence is the world.
Q: That was insane. You took my question. You didn’t answer it, but you pulled the root out and now my question just no longer exists. It doesn’t matter now.
John: Just like when you reach the tipping point to sleep, absolutely everything in your existence that has mattered to you is gone, and you’re home.
Q: Thank you, John.
John: See you later.
The feeling of spiritual fulfillment easily flows into a wish to teach or share with others, but what makes a person ready to take such a step?
This conversation highlights the difference between awakening and full embodiment: the first is easily come by, but the second is rare and requires an unusual depth of character.
An unfamiliar depth of love has opened in this person. It feels scary and likely to change her life. What’s happening and where will it take her?
What makes the world exist, and how can a person live and work in this life without participating in a matrix of illusion? In this short, direct conversation John describes how it’s possible to live in the world from our deepest heart and be only real, letting everything pass away that will pass when we die.
This questioner asks John about going home within, to what we really are. Together, they travel through the levels of personality, the self, the nervous system, the mind, all the way to our real purpose of being here. It’s a lively dialogue, full of real answers.
• The purpose of being in a body
• Becoming a pure being, living the real in everyday life
• You as awareness: like a newborn baby
• A core okayness with what is outside your control
• As a being, you are not vulnerable to anything
• Your being is safe, and you are safe in your being
• The purpose of the universe
• Intimate connectivity of meaning and essence
• When you are in your heart, you cannot help but give
• Real relationship: a partnership in givenness
* Note: this video is slightly out of sync with the audio.
Two participants speak with John for the first time, each wanting his help to move deeper, within. How can we flow in the world as what we really are without creating more self, or becoming caught in the mind? There is only one way, an absolute, universal truth, and it is natural to you.
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
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