“I dread going to work: Should I leave my job?” This questioner is wondering how to deal with a difficult boss. John shows how, when there isn’t a tightening within, an unpleasant experience can actually open deeper love, making it possible to flourish even in difficulty.
How does one deal with the emotional trauma of sexual abuse? What is the value of our past and its memories? In this deep and intricate dialogue, John shows us how opening in the present can heal the past, reconfiguring our body and our self.
What to do when wonderful awakening experiences fade away, and resistance, fear and suffering return to our experience? John reminds us that we know something much deeper within, which is different than our self. Suffering is in the self, it comes from what is familiar. There is no suffering in knowing, in being in what knowing is in our heart; and there is no suffering in the purity of liking. Liking knowing the deep within removes the suffering. It’s easy, natural, direct and immediate.
The questioner describes having been awakened to a deep energy of pure love within, and yet suffering still continues. John explains that the suffering is in the self, while the love is not. The love is your home. Your self suffers because it is not complete. You are complete. You don’t need to suffer. That puts your self in your care. Then, every difficulty that you have in your self will have you coming more deeply from the love that you’ve awakened to, within.
In this Q&A dialogue, John speaks about how to stay in the heart when others attack or offend you.
The dialogue covers several topics including:
• Reactivity and polarization. The reactivity betrays a false, illusory investment.
• Being honest to your self blinds you.
• Being beautifully vulnerable: No filters, no boundaries, no shields, no protection of any kind – you will feel everything. Everything that touches your self from anyone, from anything, is free to go right into you, right through you.
• Instead of reacting – open. When someone loves you – open. When someone is nasty to you – open. Then you are being what you really are.
A detailed and sometimes humorous teaching on how to remain open however someone treats you.
In this Q&A dialogue after watching the movie “The Tiger: An Old Hunter’s Tale” the questioner asks about how to let go of the false story you’ve let define you and truly live life to the fullest.
In this Q&A dialogue, the questioner speaks about the emptiness in his heart. He brings it up because he is experiencing a hole, an emptiness, the source of all his addictions, wanting to fill it, and being a victim of it. Watch the video to find out what John says about that emptiness, regardless and despite the distractions one may experience.
An “out of this world” meeting, in which John and the questioner explore what compassion really is.
“Difficulty sends you to your resources …” John explains the evolutionary opportunity of this life and why, when we die, we’ll be indebted to the difficulties encountered.
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
