John de Ruiter Podcast 608
Actual or Real: Is There a Difference?
June 28, 2020 @ 2:00pm
John often refers to what is real and what is actual. What does he mean, and how do we know when we're being real?
John often refers to what is real and what is actual. What does he mean, and how do we know when we're being real?
595 – When a Crumb of Truth in Your Heart is Your Home
John responds to a spiritual dilemma: a desperate longing for realization, coupled with the fear of nothingness that seems to come with it.
589 – Starting Over: Living Your Awakening Before You Die
After many years on a spiritual path, this person is no longer interested in more teachings. Can there really be nothing to do? John describes what stands in the way of living our awakening, and the value of doing that before we die.
585 – Beyond Your Understood Powers: Your Real Life, Within
“Who am I?” In this dialogue, John is responding to a person who really wants his spiritual search to be over but doesn’t know how that can happen.
573 – Meditation: Can it Become a Trap?
“Meditation is a help, it isn’t you.” This conversation uncovers how a helpful technique can become a self-made trap, and John shares the key to moving beyond it.
552 – No Aim, No Clue: Your Sweet Return to Simply Being
Two questions: one about the vanishing aim of enlightenment, the other about the effects of being on a computer all day. John’s answer applies equally to both, and it all has to do with enjoying being, within.
509 – Bonds of Being
In this detailed and at times humorous dialogue, John reveals the magical bonds of being that occur when one spectrum of consciousness encounters another.
485 – Real Community: A Location of Oneness
How is a community formed if it's not moved by intention? A question about love opens a conversation about the oneness at the heart of real community.
481 – From a Spiritual Practice to a Living Mantra
Meditation, spiritual traditions, mantras … do they really work? As John explains, there is a living mantra, but you won't hear it in words.
438 – Beyond a Daily Practice: Why Working on Your Beingness Doesn't Work
The man in this dialogue is ready to make whatever sacrifices necessary to let go of the self and move deeper into his being. He discusses with John his various practices, and the two-edged sword of any doing to be becomes clear. Together they arrive at the only way that works.
415 – The Search for Truth Will Never Satisfy
“What am I looking for?” This questioner has been enjoying some rest from his search for liberation, but feels a familiar dissatisfaction beginning again. John's answer reveals how the search can end once and for all.
401 – No Path, No Techniques, No Therapy: It's All About Opening
Openings come and go, bringing with them great changes in perspective and love, yet in our selves things often stay the same. What can be done? John’s answer draws the questioner away from trying to change her self, showing her what really works: unconditional openness from the inside out.
394 – Why A Relationship Won't Answer Your Aloneness
One of the most common misunderstandings people face is the belief that a relationship will complete them. This dialogue reveals why that isn't so and how being fundamentally free of this misconception is the beginning of true readiness for a meaningful relationship.
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
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