Q: I have chosen to live a life that is alone for many years now, and I want to ask you about merging with another, and what that means, truly.
John: Merging with another means that you are being with another, without in any way at all consuming another. But that is not something that happens unless you are living in this world while not consuming anything within, being within this life without taking anything from this life. Then your own beingness is contributing to this life.
Being in this life isn’t about making things comfortable for your self. It is about you being comfortable with people and in life. Then there is nothing within you that takes. Being able to comprehend, within, what it is to receive while not being able to relate, within, to taking: receiving without taking, giving without needing. That enables you to merge with another: being able to see without needing to be seen, being able to be seen without needing to be seen. Gentleness that is free to be looked into.
Q: Please say more about that.
John: Have a kind and a lovely relationship with food, while enjoying not needing to take anything from it. Your manner in how you are giving outwards is determined by the manner in which you are taking things inwards.
Your relationship with food determines your relationship with people. Be very kindly noticing, within, what you eat, how you eat and why you eat. And then let the finest beingness occupy what you eat, how you eat and why you eat, and then you’ll be so pleasantly astonished at how you see people differently.
A balanced and a right merging with food is the beginning of a balanced and a right merging with people. You get to see your way, within, and then you get to change your way, within. You get to be what you are actually in love with, within, and you get to let that change your way without.
You get to exist as a lovely being that moves through humanness.
514 – Love Replacing Fear: Believing What You Know in Your Heart
“If it isn’t natural, immediate and beautifully easy, you’re making it too difficult.” Discover what John is referring to in this conversation about whether intense fear can prevent us from living from the heart.
513 – Deeper Knowledge Given a Face in this World
An unusual opportunity to hear from a person who’s discovering how to move in unseen realms, and learn from John the difference it makes in this world.
512 – Integrating Spirituality: Walking the Walk
The experience of emptiness and openness on the path of integration can feel like a no-man’s land. John explains why that is, how to avoid a spiritual ego, and what to trust … even if you feel like a fool.
511 – The Making of A New Self
The sense of having nothing to hold onto allows a moment of communion, an experience of being. John explains when holding has value and when it is merely conditioning, coming between us and what we really are.
510 – Removing the Veils of Illusion: The Unseen Made Seen, Through You
This conversation takes us on a journey beyond our seen reality into unseen realms within, and John describes the subtle veils that separate us from being the love that we most deeply are.
509 – Bonds of Being
In this detailed and at times humorous dialogue, John reveals the magical bonds of being that occur when one spectrum of consciousness encounters another.
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
