596 – Beyond Sadness and Pain: Happy Without a Reason
John reveals the source of the deep well of sadness and pain this person carries, and shares how she can reconnect with her original happiness.
Q: I’m wondering if you see what is in the way of “all at once”.
John: Nothing. Believe only what you most deeply, directly know the truth of in your heart and there’s nothing in the way. Without that, your false beliefs are all, impossibly, in the way. The more that you work with them, to be rid of them, the stronger you make them. When you don’t like them you’re feeding them. When you like them, you’re feeding them. If you’re sick of being separate you’re not finished with being separate. The being sick of it is an indulgence.
When you simply, so simply, have no need of being separate anymore, you’re not. If you favour even a tiny little bit of doing so that you can be, then you must suffer being separate a little longer. When you, unconditionally, no longer have such need you’re home. Lift a finger to help that and you’re not home.
There isn’t anything, on its own, in all of existence, that can separate you from what you really are, that can separate you from your being. There’s no kind of self of yours that can separate you. There’s no kind of past that can separate you. There’s no weight of patterning that can separate you. There’s no kind of abuse in all of existence that can separate you. No one anywhere, at any time, has a good reason for being separate. No one needs therapy, no one needs a change, no one needs a difference. The real is from the innermost outwards, and it works. You see it in a baby’s smile, or its laugh. There isn’t anything there that can be improved. What is there is innermost sweetly outwards.
You’re welcome to it directly, instantly, without a touch of process. It doesn’t matter what condition your body’s in, your mind, your feelings, your emotion, your will, your self, your life, your past. None of it is a hindrance.
Q: It’s always seemed like there’s a jumping-off point, a movement, a quarter-step, a half-step. I hear you saying there’s no step.
John: Seems, yes. As soon as there’s a tiny little stepping off point, what you create is the fear of that step. There is no step. And deep, deep within you have no fear. There isn’t anything that you have to lose. For you to be this everything costs you only absolutely everything. Once you’ve paid it, you realize it wasn’t everything at all. It’s only after you’ve paid the price that you experience in your nervous system that it was really just an illusion, made real, by you, in your nervous system at some point in your past. It costs you only your false beliefs. It costs you nothing.
Q: And are we preferring something known as opposed to something unknown?
John: What you really are is unknown in its entirety to your nervous system, but not to you. If you’re looking for an experience of being what you really are, you’re not finished with illusion yet. But if opening unconditionally into what you really are is story-free and result-free, you’re home.
You don’t need a good life. You don’t need happiness. You don’t need ease in your life and you don’t need to be rid of any difficulty at all. You don’t need peace. You, beautifully, have need of nothing, and there, in what you really are, you’re at rest. It doesn’t change when your self is in difficulty. It doesn’t change within any kind of loss. It isn’t made better with any kind of gain. Enlightenment doesn’t make it even a tiny little bit better. The worst of pain on any level doesn’t tarnish it. When you’re being it, all that really remains, in the midst of anything, is love. This is your life. This is like essence-of-baby, free to have your whole life. You won’t miss anything.
Q: Thank you.
John: You see, and in the seeing you quietly love. Your question isn’t answered: you’re answered. In this, everything that is real is available to you, even the stars. You have no limit.
596 – Beyond Sadness and Pain: Happy Without a Reason
John reveals the source of the deep well of sadness and pain this person carries, and shares how she can reconnect with her original happiness.
595 – When a Crumb of Truth in Your Heart is Your Home
John responds to a spiritual dilemma: a desperate longing for realization, coupled with the fear of nothingness that seems to come with it.
594 – Fully Present in Your Body, Fully Present in Your Heart
Closing down to the experience of vulnerability can mean dissociating from the body. John shares a simple way to become more present however uncomfortable we feel.
593 – Honest to the Way of Your Heart
An exploration of how honesty and an open, soft heart are connected, taking us ever deeper into the unseen roots we could remain in forever.
592 – Beyond Self-Acceptance: The Way of Deep, Inner Healing
An experience of misplaced anger has raised the question of what real healing is. John takes us beyond simple self-acceptance, deep into the source of the finest healing of all.
591 – The Truth About Compassion
When is compassion self-centred, when is it real, and how can we tell? An exploration of what it means to be truly compassionate.
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
Cookie | Duration | Description |
---|---|---|
cookielawinfo-checkbox-advertisement | 1 year | Set by the GDPR Cookie Consent plugin, this cookie is used to record the user consent for the cookies in the "Advertisement" category . |
cookielawinfo-checkbox-analytics | 11 months | This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Analytics". |
cookielawinfo-checkbox-functional | 11 months | The cookie is set by GDPR cookie consent to record the user consent for the cookies in the category "Functional". |
cookielawinfo-checkbox-necessary | 11 months | This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. The cookies is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Necessary". |
cookielawinfo-checkbox-others | 11 months | This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Other. |
cookielawinfo-checkbox-performance | 11 months | This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Performance". |
elementor | never | This cookie is used by the website's WordPress theme. It allows the website owner to implement or change the website's content in real-time. |
PHPSESSID | session | This cookie is native to PHP applications. The cookie is used to store and identify a users' unique session ID for the purpose of managing user session on the website. The cookie is a session cookies and is deleted when all the browser windows are closed. |
viewed_cookie_policy | 11 months | The cookie is set by the GDPR Cookie Consent plugin and is used to store whether or not user has consented to the use of cookies. It does not store any personal data. |
Cookie | Duration | Description |
---|---|---|
locale | 1 month | This cookie is used to store the language preference of a user allowing the website to content relevant to the preferred language. |
Cookie | Duration | Description |
---|---|---|
_ga | 2 years | The _ga cookie, installed by Google Analytics, calculates visitor, session and campaign data and also keeps track of site usage for the site's analytics report. The cookie stores information anonymously and assigns a randomly generated number to recognize unique visitors. |
_gid | 1 day | Installed by Google Analytics, _gid cookie stores information on how visitors use a website, while also creating an analytics report of the website's performance. Some of the data that are collected include the number of visitors, their source, and the pages they visit anonymously. |
CONSENT | 16 years 2 months 18 days 8 hours | YouTube sets this cookie via embedded youtube-videos and registers anonymous statistical data. |
yt.innertube::requests | never | This cookie, set by YouTube, registers a unique ID to store data on what videos from YouTube the user has seen. |
Cookie | Duration | Description |
---|---|---|
IDE | 1 year 24 days | Google DoubleClick IDE cookies are used to store information about how the user uses the website to present them with relevant ads and according to the user profile. |
NID | 6 months | NID cookie, set by Google, is used for advertising purposes; to limit the number of times the user sees an ad, to mute unwanted ads, and to measure the effectiveness of ads. |
test_cookie | 15 minutes | The test_cookie is set by doubleclick.net and is used to determine if the user's browser supports cookies. |
VISITOR_INFO1_LIVE | 5 months 27 days | A cookie set by YouTube to measure bandwidth that determines whether the user gets the new or old player interface. |
YSC | session | YSC cookie is set by Youtube and is used to track the views of embedded videos on Youtube pages. |
yt-remote-connected-devices | never | YouTube sets this cookie to store the video preferences of the user using embedded YouTube video. |
yt-remote-device-id | never | YouTube sets this cookie to store the video preferences of the user using embedded YouTube video. |
yt.innertube::nextId | never | This cookie, set by YouTube, registers a unique ID to store data on what videos from YouTube the user has seen. |