625 – All-Weather Beingness: Inner Quietude Beyond Experience
Is there a way to stay connected to the deep while under pressure? John describes it as an all-weather beingness and explains how to become stabilized in its quiet nurture.
Q: Hello John. I think everyone in this room has his own spiritual path, his own projects and his own work life, and my question is about where those two come together. So we all try to achieve, we have work to complete. Sometimes we engage with that work and we identify with its outcome. My question is when we are in that situation where we engage in a personal project, and these things in the universe happen that are not in our control, we might have great joy in them if we succeed. We might also suffer if we don’t. So how do we put our energy into work, without being dependent on the outcome?
John: By openness engaging what we do instead of want and need engaging what we do.
Q: So we should be open and not want and need, right?
John: You’re able to be openness instead of being want and need – openness engaging in a process. It isn’t dependent on the outcome.
Q: For example, if a writer wants to write a book, he can be very open about his intention of publishing that book and open about the outcome. But the moment he puts in that personal energy, he kind of binds himself to the outcome. In theory, yes, we want to be independent of the outcome and let the universe decide. But how do we do that if we invested so much of our being into that project? What if the book-writer suddenly finds that his book is not as successful as he thought? How can he be open? What tools can you give him?
John: By doing because you’re clear. You’re clear about what to do and how to do it, so what you are really doing is your clarity. Clarity isn’t result-oriented; it’s clarity-oriented. You’re always doing what’s clear. As what you’re doing has success, you keep moving in your clarity. As what you’re doing on the surface fails, you keep moving in your clarity. It’s your clarity that you’re doing.
Q: So you separate those levels?
John: Clarity-orientation in your doing is a manifestation of deeper knowledge. It’s form in your self of deeper knowledge. That clarity means more to you than your self so it isn’t for your self that you move in that clarity.
Q: So what you’re saying is you root that clarity in some ideal or some goal which is not dependent on your person, something which you can see and feel and move forwards towards.
John: The clarity isn’t project-oriented. It’s direct knowledge-oriented. The clarity is manifestation of what you really are. It’s a manifestation of direct knowledge within the space of your mind and your self. If everything that you do from within your deep quiet clarity that comes from what is deeper within than your self fails, you are not less clear. It isn’t deflating. When you’re being your clarity based on what’s deeper, you are a non-polarized presence of clarity.
Q: So what tool can you give to that publisher out there who is trying to root into that clarity and trying to find that inner truth as he is working 8 hours, 10 hours a day? It’s this practical energy that we invest which concerns the work.
John: That it doesn’t really matter very much what you do. It doesn’t matter much what you do in your life. That enables you to more quickly realize that your identity doesn’t come from what you do. The whole relationship to an identity comes to rest and instead of relating to an identity that’s fixed on what it achieves from doing, you are deeply rested awareness directly being, and it doesn’t come from any kind of doing. The deep inner completeness is already there. You can’t do anything to improve on it. Success doesn’t make it better and failure doesn’t make it worse, and this beingness is able to manifest as functional clarity.
Q: So how can we find that clarity as we engage in these other areas of our brain which are active, the pre-frontal cortex trying to analyze different actions that we need to take while we type in that e-mail, for example?
John: That it is all done for something other than the manifestation. It’s all done for what you’re oriented to, much more deeply within, that makes your doing a manifestation of something much deeper. It’s like the innocence of a small child engaged in doing something. It isn’t result-oriented in what it’s doing, even if it has a result in mind. Everything that it is doing is because of what it already is. It’s innocence doing. That’s not the same, it’s different from separating a little bit from innocence and doing, engaged in doing.
Q: Yes. And that innocence comes naturally to the child. But we sometimes have to deal with concepts and people and relationships which pull us in and away from that clarity.
John: Then that’s a separation from innocence.
Q: Yes. How do we get back to the innocence while still being in that world and those needs that are around us?
John: By returning to your heart and remaining in your heart unconditionally and at any personal expense, and letting that, in its clarity, do whatever it does.
Q: Is there some kind of tool that you can give us to train on this connection to clarity?
John: Live sweetly never taking your self to heart. What belongs in your heart is everything deeper within than your self. Take your self to heart and you separate. Within whatever it is you do, as soon as you take your self to heart you fool your self. You give importance to your self in a way that is about your self. That self-importance is the life of the ego.
If you live not taking your self to heart, and all you take to heart, all that fills your heart is what you quietly know the truth of, what fills your heart is anything of your being, and it’s your being-filled heart that fills your self. There is no ego. It isn’t an accomplishment to have no ego. It’s deeply, quietly natural.
Q: So I can feel that and that is also in the core teachings of so many wisdoms and traditions. My question is how can the one who is engaged in his project – not his ego but his work – yet he is still identifying with the project he is building, inevitably by pulling so much energy?
John: Not identified with it, just doing it.
Q: And that’s my question: how do you do it without identifying in it?
John: Because you’re clear in what you’re doing. The doing doesn’t come from a polarization. It comes from the deep, quiet clarity. The doing of that clarity is a manifestation of what’s deeper within than what fuels the clarity. What fuels it is you, awareness and knowing, being one. Oneness manifested in the self is clarity, a form of oneness.
Q: Do you sometimes yourself feel pulled out from this or are you always in that clarity in your day-to-day life?
John: It isn’t in my day-to-day life. It is my life. The greater the difficulty, the greater the depth of clarity that moves.
Q: Thank you.
625 – All-Weather Beingness: Inner Quietude Beyond Experience
Is there a way to stay connected to the deep while under pressure? John describes it as an all-weather beingness and explains how to become stabilized in its quiet nurture.
624 – The Awakening of Our Endless Consciousness
A question about enlightenment develops into an astonishing revelation of what our potential as consciousness really is, and it all begins with being given to the sweetest touch of tenderness.
623 – The Fulfilling Nature of “Nothingness”
Is “nothingness” the void that it seems? From a deeper perspective, the stillness is full of movement, the emptiness full of qualities of our being that can manifest in the midst of the self we’ve become.
622 – Manifesting You: A Wondrous Responsibility
We have enormous power, and what we do with it defines us in a way that’s readable even after death. John emphasizes the role of clarity in becoming all we’re able to be in this life.
621 – The Soul: The Most Important of All Your Forms
The soul is shrouded in mystery, yet it can evolve massively while we are in this life. How does that happen, and what is the dark night of the soul?
620 – The Invitation in an Awakening Experience
This conversation reveals the real value in a life-changing experience of awakening. With it came an invitation, and John explains how to live the oneness contained in its message.
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
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