This questioner speaks of having no secure ground within and of not trusting others. John shows him how he can find real ground within, beneath his experience; that believing and being loyal to that knowing will bring real groundedness and stability whatever his experience.
Becoming a parent is a joyous experience, but for many it can be quite overwhelming. Anxiety can quickly replace joy as we struggle with our own uncertainty and reactivity. How do we set boundaries and say ‘no’ in ways that don’t trigger a power struggle with our child? In this talk, John gives practical advice about how to give your child what your child really needs by coming from quiet clarity and warmth – the ‘juiciest’ kind of parenting.
This questioner had an awakening which he hoped his Buddhist spiritual practice would open further. He feels stuck and wants to know how he can move forward. John explains that his awakening caused a shift in orientation that does not yet match the self that he has, the result being an ache felt deeply in his heart. John shows him the shift that is needed: a surrender beyond his understanding to the knowing in his heart.
We are here for just a short time, our bodies are temporary. So what happens after death? Is Karma real? How to have only good karma? Can meditation help? Listen to this talk to find out.
“I dread going to work: Should I leave my job?” This questioner is wondering how to deal with a difficult boss. John shows how, when there isn’t a tightening within, an unpleasant experience can actually open deeper love, making it possible to flourish even in difficulty.
How to transcend life and death?
– The principle of life and death comes in the integration of your self, from what is beyond your self.
– Realizing a profound equilibrium of meaning in living and in dying
– Being grounded in what you directly know of the beyond.
– No longer dependant on beliefs to be grounded in your perception of reality.
– Awakening life within that doesn’t pass away.
– You transcend life by coming into the deeper levels of life.
– You transcend death by not being limited to the level of life you perceive.
– Never loyal to your perception, in living or in dying.
“You begin to develop a body of the beyond. The beyond, by you, is in your flesh. As you walk this world the beyond that you are grounded in has life. As your self changes and turns into what you’re being in it, it isn’t just the beyond that is concretely in your walk, in your body as you move about in this world, but you also begin to have real life in your self, in the beyond.”
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
