What is the purpose of sleep? Is it to replenish our body or is there a deeper meaning to the cycle of sleep? Why do we dream? John explains the difference between going to sleep in patterns and tightness, and going to sleep matching our being. In matching our being, there is a different kind of freshness when we wake up, having been washed, during sleep, through all of the depths of our being. Going to sleep can be one of the most awesome times of the day.
A man is asking how he can regain his innocence in the context of sexuality. John explains that sexuality is the heart’s capacity to experience true oneness with another. For a man, the penis is truly the highest and the most exquisite of the expressions of truth, the most sacred. Moving in want and need reduces the energy of the penis to the lowest, most coarse. Sexuality has no meaning until the whole of this energy is freed from having to be in the mind. John explains in practical terms how the penis can simply return home and then it is no longer the lowest and the coarsest energy in the mind, but it is now the highest and the finest energy in the heart.
In this podcast the questioner speaks of his sense of readiness to connect more deeply and enter more of his being. John’s response takes us from a whisper of what’s deeper, beyond the perspective of our familiar selves, into unseen levels of love. After turning over control to our being, letting “incomprehensible being overtake your mind”, we come back to our everyday selves with a renewed awareness of the eternal nature of real connection.
People ask John questions after watching the movie Arrival. Topics discussed include:
• Real communication occurs when your heart and anything deeper fills your self. – limiting that infilling – is you limiting real communication.
• Within real communication, there is real listening… contingent on your heart and anything deeper.
• misinterpreting something – is conclusion that’s being drawn in your self that in your self you don’t know the truth of, so that conclusion doesn’t have the support of everything that’s deeper than your self.
• As soon as you’re coming from what’s deeper than your self what you come into is that it’s all done
• as soon as you apply that to what matters in your self you separate from what is all done, so you create something that isn’t real: illusion.
• Your self needs to be close to your heart and everything deeper… melts away what you think matters much.
• It’s for your self to take the shape of your heart and everything deeper
• as soon as your self is used to take the shape of what you like and don’t like, what you want and what you don’t want, your self as a separate form from your heart and everything deeper, turns into a kind of mobility and a power that offers no depth of meaning.
In this dialogue the questioner speaks of having a sense of what is deeper inside him, and a readiness to connect more deeply. John’s response takes us from a whisper of what’s deeper, beyond the perspective of the familiar self, and into unseen levels of love. When we allow our being to be ‘in control’, we come back to our everyday selves with a renewed awareness of the eternal nature of real connection.
“If before we are born we are in a place of absolute peace, and, if after we die we return to a place of absolute peace, what’s the point for us to just go through this life? Wouldn’t it be easier just to kind of skip over this part?” Listen to this golden oldie for an introduction to the meaning of life.
Something this questioner sees in a TV nature program overturns all of his ideas of good and bad, right and wrong, taking him behind the facade created by his core beliefs. In this dialogue, John travels with him through the creation and power of these false structures, the shocking effects of unveiling their illusory reality, and shows him how to build what is real through an unconditional return to the heart.
This dialogue begins with the questioner asking “being a nobody” and transforms into a conversation about how to let go of spiritual ways to allow room for real transformation. Just as candida comes from having too much sugar, John guides the speaker to let go of his “spiritual candida” until he can handle more. Topics discussed:
• It’s good to rest in seeing, without needing understanding or interpretation.
• No need to think about it or talk about it, make nothing of it.
• Being relaxed and not applying things too quickly.
• Have no more spiritual sugar. You have spiritual candida.
• What others can handle, you can’t handle, so you need to eliminate all of it until the candida’s gone.
• Your relationship with what you know and what you see is feeding your self.
• For some time – don’t speak about what you know and what you see.
• Don’t speak of the deep, don’t be “”into”” what you know and what you see… and therefore into saying it.
• Your relationship with sugar/with your self – is very tricky.
• Don’t take the fruits – leave them behind you… it’s an illusion…
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
