How is it possible to accept violence when it seems so unnatural and wrong? In this talk, we get to see our role in its existence, and the way back to the tenderness of our true nature.
Year: 2000
This dialogue explores the topic of mind: what is subtle mind? Universal mind? What about our patterned mind, and what transforms it? John reveals the role of innocence and unconditional openness in having a mind free of patterns – an intimate, living, subtle mind.
Q: I don’t see where personal love – the love from one person to another – fits with the love which just is. Are they related, or is personal love between two people more based on wants, needs and desires? It seems to me…
Q: What is real love? John: It is the most wonderful, life-giving and healing energy in the universe. It cannot comprehend frustration. It cannot be bothered or bugged. It cannot be frustrated, because love is not frustration. It cannot be provoked to be anything…
Q: I have this question about innocence. All those things that we do to our selves and to other people … do they leave marks? Do they go away? John: Never. Did you see the movie ‘The Gladiator’? What he said is true: that…
This young woman speaks the uncertainty of many in today’s spiritual marketplace. She wants to give her heart away to truth, but experience has revealed that many teachers are untrustworthy. John reveals the differences between a teacher of truth and one completely mastered by truth; to listen to all but to give her heart only to what she genuinely knows.
Q: I feel so much pain in my heart. Can you speak of how to experience forgiveness? John: By never, ever being hard on your self again. Q: How do you do that? John: By never judging yourself based on anything that you’ve…
This is a question about sex and intimacy. The questioner feels she resists intimacy and doesn’t understand why, when love-making is full of sweetness, she still seems to avoid it. John shows her how to look for what she trusts. Where there is trust, love moves.
What is the purpose of sleep? Is it to replenish our body or is there a deeper meaning to the cycle of sleep? Why do we dream? John explains the difference between going to sleep in patterns and tightness, and going to sleep matching our being. In matching our being, there is a different kind of freshness when we wake up, having been washed, during sleep, through all of the depths of our being. Going to sleep can be one of the most awesome times of the day.
A man is asking how he can regain his innocence in the context of sexuality. John explains that sexuality is the heart’s capacity to experience true oneness with another. For a man, the penis is truly the highest and the most exquisite of the expressions of truth, the most sacred. Moving in want and need reduces the energy of the penis to the lowest, most coarse. Sexuality has no meaning until the whole of this energy is freed from having to be in the mind. John explains in practical terms how the penis can simply return home and then it is no longer the lowest and the coarsest energy in the mind, but it is now the highest and the finest energy in the heart.
A delicate conversation that explores the difficulties and power struggles that can come up in sexual intimacy.
Ojas De Ronde interview with John de Ruiter in February 2000 in Amsterdam, The Netherlands. This article originally appeared on Living Satsang. In February 2000, John de Ruiter was in the Netherlands where his parents were born. People could meet him in the Kings Room of…
