In this talk, John explains that it is openness and softness of heart, in every little thing in life, that can become your beloved master. When you live being a servant to openness and softness of heart, that is you finding and living with the beloved within.
Q: Instead of looking for the master outside, how I can meet the master inside?
John: Like being mastered by openness and softness of heart in the midst of every little thing in your life – that openness and softness of heart is your beloved master.
Q: It’s that bit, openness and softness. Now is to embody it, to be it.
John: Whatever it is that masters you is what you’re embodying. That works for better and for worse. If you’re mastered by a self-orientation, it’s self-orientation that you’ll embody. If you’re mastered by heart orientation, it’s your humanness that you’ll embody.
If you’re mastered by openness and softness of heart you’ll be mastered by partly your humanness and partly the underside of your humanness – your being. Both together will be mastering you. You’ll be embodying your humanness and your being that moves your humanness. As that is what you embody, that’s you living with the beloved within. The beloved is your life. You like giving way to the beloved within. The beloved within is what has you in your life. That brings the face of the beloved up into your face. It’s a little bit like what you see in a baby’s face, in the face of a small child, still in its innocence.
The beloved has a face. It’s the interior of your face. Like bringing openness and softness of heart everywhere into your body. When you’re carrying something inside about your life, it’s openness and softness of heart that’s carrying it. When you’re doing something in your life, it’s openness and softness of heart that’s doing it. When you think about something, it’s openness and softness of heart that is thinking. When you see someone or meet someone, it’s openness and softness of heart that sees and meets.
This is your new life. This is your love.
Q: Yes, it is.
John: Openness and softness of heart has a hand. That hand within you is you being like this (open hand). When something troubles you, you lay your head in its hand. You let your face rest in its hand. You live being a servant to openness and softness of heart. When, as a servant, you are troubled or anxious about something, you rest your head in your master’s hand.
Q: I rest my head in my face … my inner face. Is it what you mean?
John: Yes.
Q: Thank you, John.
When you live not taking your self to heart, your awareness relaxes and dissolves into consciousness. Going beyond the comfort zone of your self, the merging of conscious and unconscious comes by purity of heart. Then, you are intimately coming from your heart toward anyone and anything.
– The real responds to the real: a different Level of you
– Openness to see the whole of your self
– Gentled and quieted in your heart
– The evolution of consciousness
– The unknown: greatest depths of the real
• The purpose of being in a body
• Becoming a pure being, living the real in everyday life
• You as awareness: like a newborn baby
• The purpose of the universe
• Intimate connectivity of meaning and essence
• When you are in your heart, you cannot help but give
• Real relationship: a partnership in givenness
* Note: this video is slightly out of sync with the audio.
Two participants speak with John for the first time, each wanting his help to move deeper, within. How can we flow in the world as what we really are without creating more self, or becoming caught in the mind? There is only one way, an absolute, universal truth, and it is natural to you.
• An unknown love moving and awakening you
• Taken by your deeper heart
• Cancer can cure you of your self
This conversation highlights the difference between awakening and full embodiment: the first is easily come by, but the second is rare and requires an unusual depth of character.
After the pain and loss of a broken relationship, is there anything left of the connection? John speaks of being given to the unseen bond that remains. Over-thinking and analyzing is another way of trying to manage the difficulties of life, but it’s being gentled and quieted in the heart that works.
John guides a young man in his awakening experience, helping him to see the truth in what he’s knowing, realizing that as alien as the experience is to his habitual self, that he was not born for anything else.
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
