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At Home In Your Heart, Your First Love

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When: September 15, 2016
Afternoon Open Mic
Where: ,

Q: I don’t know how to get into my heart. I understand how that happens naturally just before I fall asleep, but how do I be in my heart in the midst of all my feelings, without judging from the head?

John: If you take what you’re thinking, what you’re feeling, what you’re experiencing in your body and nervous system to heart, you will not be at rest in your heart. If you try to change a thought or a feeling, an experience, you’ll leave your heart to accomplish that. The fundamental change of thinking, feeling and experience comes by you unconditionally being at rest in your heart. It doesn’t require a work.

Q: Is just observing it also work?

John: Yes, because when you observe it you’re interested. Even just observing it gives you a sense of control. In that way, awareness being the witness is a subtle form of separation. You don’t need the witness, the observer, for you to be what you really are. Like making this easy and it’s easy.

Q: I’m not sure I understand.

John: Like making being in your heart and being what you really are perfectly, instantly, easy. When you like making it easy you’ll relate to direct knowledge – the direct knowledge of being what you really are. You turn into instant access.

What this is really based on is that deep, within, you know. You’ve always known and there isn’t anything on its own that can cover it. Not even decades of separation. As soon as you unconditionally open and soften in your heart, without result, you’re home.

If you look at being that for the result of peace, you fool your self. Be what you really are for any result and you fool your self. Unconditionally open and soften in your heart, without a story and without result, and you’re home.

You being that is your first love. You have no other.

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