Questions About Relationship

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Staying in the Bond After a Breakup

February 21, 2021 @ 11:00am

After the pain and loss of a broken relationship, is there anything left of the connection? John speaks of being given to the unseen bond that remains. Over-thinking and analyzing is another way of trying to manage the difficulties of life, but it’s being gentled and quieted in the heart that works.

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John de Ruiter Podcast 509

Bonds of Being

July 1, 1999 @ 2:00pm

In this detailed and at times humorous dialogue, John reveals the magical bonds of being that occur when one spectrum of consciousness encounters another.

Latest Transcript on Relationship

Untangling The Knots In Relationship

December 7, 2022

Q: I often feel attacked by my father. How can I untangle the knot that’s there in relationship with him? John: Just, sweetly, don’t. Sweetly don’t untangle the knot. When you are so sweetly leaving the whole knot between the two of you alone, you see him and he is seen, despite the knot.  When he’s seen, he is...

Q: I often feel attacked by my father. How can I untangle the knot that’s there in relationship with him?

John: Just, sweetly, don’t. Sweetly don’t untangle the knot. When you are so sweetly leaving the whole knot between the two of you alone, you see him and he is seen, despite the knot. 

When he’s seen, he is going to either tighten or loosen. That part is his business, not yours. Either way, you just keep sweetly seeing him and you leave the knot alone.

Q: And I don’t have to protect myself?

John: That’s right.

Q: And it’s like that with everyone?

John: Yes.

Q: I can feel that in relation with my daughter, too.

John: Live this way and you’ve returned to your innocence. Live this way before you die.

Latest VOD on Relationship

A Zoom Café Conversation – May 2, 2022

May 2, 2022

“The work that you’re doing that you don’t realize is what is being built in the cosmic soul.”   Gain and loss; soul erosion is activated by polarity Soul groupings; different frequencies of love Your choices in sexuality affect your soul John’s soul work in the unseen Leaving a relationship, staying in magical love The cosmic soul body: no one is not in it Measurements of soul change; a watch metaphor...

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