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John de Ruiter Podcast 476
John de Ruiter Podcast 476
Openness Replacing Your Fears
When: December 5, 2002 @ 7:00pm
Topics: Feelings & Emotions, Introductory
Despite the overwhelming fear that comes up in this person when she expresses herself, she takes the opportunity to talk with John to find out what’s happening and if it can change.
“Fear is just the result of you misunderstanding what it is that you actually, really are.”
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Podcast Transcript
Openness Replacing Your Fears
Q: I wanted to show myself and to speak because when I do, the fear in my heart becomes almost overwhelming and it doesn’t seem to ever get any easier. And it feels like the more I am with my heart the more levels of fear that I access.
John: Then enjoy being surprised by what is real instead of being intimidated by what is real. The fear is there because of a very usual and a very understandable self- orientation. You have a self, but you are more than just that self. As soon as you are confined to just that self, then there is fear.
When as awareness you are very gently no longer confined to the self, then within the self there is, instead of fear, surprise. The self opens when you open. Enjoy within that you are more than your self, then instead of being to confined to your self you are encompassing your self.
Q: So you’re saying to enjoy the fear.
John: Not enjoying your fear. Enjoying that you are more than your self. Fear is the result of being confined to your self. When you are enjoying within that you are more than your self, then you are warmly greater than fear. Fear is just the result of you misunderstanding what it is that you actually really are. You really are much more than just your self. You are accustomed to being only your self. Before you came to recognize your self you were much more than just your self.
Q: It seems that when I’m alone and I’m in contemplation or meditation or in a place that’s peaceful that I can be with that greater self, and it seems to come when I need to speak out or to show my self in some way, and it must be that I lose myself at that time, or lose that greater sense of self.
John: Letting awareness focus, without awareness turning into the self or letting awareness focus without making it about your self. That is like openness focusing. When openness focuses it isn’t confined by something. When openness focuses, that is awareness specifically encompassing something more. Being limited only to being true to the deep in you, that gives you an authentic self and frees you from a made-up self, a self that is there for expression instead of the self that is there to be confined in. The self is there so that you can embody what you are being, so that you can experience what you are being. The self is there to help you as a being, not confine you as a being.
When you have fear you are using the self to confine you as a being. Then you become lost in the self, actually believing that you are the self. Then as awareness you are self-oriented, Instead of being all of the truth within oriented. Having a self enables there to be form to what it is that you are being. When you are being the openness, within, there is a follow through into the form of that. That enables you to see and to experience what you are being. But you are not to be confined by that experience, just gently learning from it.
When you are enjoying, within, that you are more than just your self then you are aware of what you are. Such real and profound awareness is enjoyable. It is nurturing. It is surprising rather than fearful.
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