586 – What is Free Will?
“There is free will after death, never before.” John explains this rather startling statement and reveals why only love has such freedom.
Q: I found out in a family constellation about when I was second years old my mother had a miscarriage that was supposed to be a little brother to me, and I’ve been carrying her sorrow and depression ever since. been carrying difficulties with my back especially, and getting worse through the years. Apparently I was carrying around this energy of this little brother, or this soul, through life, misunderstood: that to gain my parents, attention I should be as dead as him.
John: When you are not in your heart, all you have to relate from then is your self. As a self you will then relate genetically. You’ll draw from those around you what relates to you as a self. Whatever you carry in that is not real. The way that you form because of that is not real. You trying to deal with that is not real. What’s real is you, despite your self, returning to your heart.
Any pain in your self is a manifestation of the stories that you live in your self. The pain in your self isn’t real. It’s only actual.
Q: When I feel these heavy shoulders and the pain, to meet this illusion – if I understand you right – is that to go to the heart and to open into this?
John: To open into your heart and into everything that’s deeper. There is no illusion for you to address. Addressing it means you’re interested in it.
Q: And accepting is the same?
John: Even looking at it, facing it, feeds it.
Q: Can you help me right now so I can remember better?
John: Face your heart. Face what you deeply know in your heart. The knowing in your heart is all about beingness.
Q: I know all this.
John: The knowing in your heart carries no thought. The knowing in your heart is beingness that takes you way deeper, within. It’s all direct. There’s no process in it. There isn’t anything to learn. It’s all your return to innocence.
When you are facing your heart, in your heart, in what’s deeper than your heart, any thought about your little brother isn’t going to weigh on you. Any thought of your little brother instantly connects you and makes you love. Everything else is a story. The way that he is now, you are free to be just the same.
Q: To just be the same? Mmm.
John: The same as he is.
Q: You mean beyond.
John: For sure, just warmly beyond your self; warmly, deeper within than your self and you being just like him in the midst of your self, and then through your self, and then as a self to others. It’s a little bit like him, as your self, to others. It’s not really him; it’s you being the same as he is.
Q: So I’m wondering, one thing is to have the audience and your energy to help me, but when I’m alone how do I do this?
John: Let your heart, through your surrender, take you. Let what you know that is deeper within than your heart take you. That makes you free-flow-awareness, within.
Q: Yeah. I can feel it. It seems like areas around the chest and heart are somehow changing, maybe deepening.
John: So it isn’t just you becoming like your little brother, but your body is also becoming like him: connected.
Q: Yeah. It’s like it’s changing between the heart and the throat. It’s opening more in the throat.
John: You being in your heart is moving up into your throat. If you let it, it will keep going and it will move right up, filling the interior of your face and your eyes. And then you are just like your little brother.
Q: I’m also being pulled a little backwards. It’s like waves, it’s like it was going up into the face and then maybe down again, it’s coming and going.
John: A beautiful rhythm of being that is a little bit like breathing.
Q: It seems like something is stopping the openness. I think it’s my mind, somehow! Having a jester crawling around!
John: The only thing that can stop this is you bringing something of your self into your heart. As you are given to your heart, that cleans your self out of your heart, opens your heart for your being to come in, and from there your being-filled heart moves into all of your self.
Your being-filled heart filling your self: that’s what your self is for, to be freely filled by everything that’s deeper.
Q: Yeah, here we go! It’s going in waves. It’s really beautiful to allow it and be patient – I don’t know, with my self, or whatever.
John: That’s too much. Just freely like it and love it.
Q: Can you say it again?
John: Just really like it and love it. As you do, it keeps taking you.
Q: Thank you, John.
586 – What is Free Will?
“There is free will after death, never before.” John explains this rather startling statement and reveals why only love has such freedom.
585 – Beyond Your Understood Powers: Your Real Life, Within
“Who am I?” In this dialogue, John is responding to a person who really wants his spiritual search to be over but doesn’t know how that can happen.
584 – The Meaning in Creativity and Service
This person feels separate from his essence in daily life, caught up in issues of survival rather than manifesting the creativity and service he believes he was born for.
583 – Finding the Golden Thread Between You and a Difficult Parent
This conversation opens up the difficulty of being with an angry father who still triggers your painful past. Is it okay not to see him, or is there another way forward?
582 – Don’t Be Right and Don’t Be Wrong: Be Together
Relationship can be the grand revealer of all the ways we create separation and struggle. John points out some of the traps, and reveals where real togetherness lies.
581 – Beyond Panic and Stress: Swimming in the Stream of Your Awakening
The stress and panic coming from her extreme sensitivity have eclipsed this person’s experience of her awakening. Why is this happening, and how can she return to her knowing?
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
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