Q: I recently retired from work. I’m sixty-two. I intend to live beyond ninety and am thinking what to do with the remaining thirty years of my life. The question is about focus and choice. What is my task for these remaining thirty years…
Month: April
Q: I love the truth of what I am beyond my preferences. I can see my inner face in yours and it’s like being in open sunshine. How can I open more to my shadows – those parts of me that I’ve separated from?…
This man no longer finds satisfaction in things he once enjoyed and feels alone and separate. He fears losing his uniqueness if he stops all his doing. John shows him how only by being at home in his heart, as nobody and nothing, can he know his true uniqueness and be free of his genetics.
Topics from the experience of emptiness, the need to be met in relationship, and one of life’s most fundamental questions are explored with John in this open mic.
This questioner feels frustrated in her wish to be of help to the world, to address the environmental problems and human suffering. John explains to her that frustration only makes matters worse – that the planet will thrive when we live and relate to it instead from our innermost being.
In this dialogue, John explains that the increased tension the questioner feels in his life has to do with his created sense of identity through a belief in fairness, giving him an illusory sense of personal entitlement. John goes on to explain how a belief in fairness naturally requires you to be on the lookout for unfairness, causing a closing of your heart and creating a source of tension in your life.
What is the connection between opening the heart and love-making? When you open and soften in your heart, you discover the deeper levels. The woman pours her mystery and the man reads her and receives. Together, you get to know what you really are. Together, you are making what love is.
We often ask ourselves what direction to take in life when we’re facing an important decision. John explains that what we do on the surface doesn’t matter very much, including whether we succeed or fail. What matters most is the beingness of openness and softness of heart, flowering in all of life’s circumstances.
The questioner is noticing a subtle uncomfortable movement of his sexuality, and is asking if it’s best to stay in it as still as a lake. John explains that our conscious self is only the tip of the iceberg. When you deeply open, this allows for your subconscious to come up into your conscious self. It’s like a deep lake doing a ‘flip’: the deep comes to the surface while the surface goes into the deep. That flip is made possible by you belonging to your heart. This is how you get to know your self. It is the transformation of your self.
The questioner describes an experience in which he saw a shell around him, blocking him from being in his heart and experiencing life fully. John explains that this shell is common to many; it is made of forms of illusion that we have empowered. John shows us how to give our power, through our heart, to what we actually know the truth of. We become free of the shell and its confining influence.
Why do I have this shell around my heart? John explains the power of illusion to create separation, and how to become free of its influence.
The questioner feels connected to her heart when she is being silent, but when she speaks she feels disconnected. How to speak from the heart? John explains how we are able to open our hearts in the midst of our life, regardless of the experience in our selves. We are able to not close even when there’s pain or discomfort. If we are okay with the cost of that, our selves will change, grow, develop, and purify.
