This questioner has been working hard and knows she needs to spend her time differently, but how? John shows her how time off can be spent in a repeating loop of self-rejuvenation, or be given to what has already made a difference: her awakening.
This man has taken steps beyond his addictions and difficulties but fears ultimately succumbing to their power: it’s all just too painful. John encourages him in the one way that really works – to become gentled in his heart and to live his daily life in the realization of the nurture he will find there.
Becoming a parent is a joyous experience, but for many it can be quite overwhelming. Anxiety can quickly replace joy as we struggle with our own uncertainty and reactivity. How do we set boundaries and say ‘no’ in ways that don’t trigger a power struggle with our child? In this talk, John gives practical advice about how to give your child what your child really needs by coming from quiet clarity and warmth – the ‘juiciest’ kind of parenting.
“I dread going to work: Should I leave my job?” This questioner is wondering how to deal with a difficult boss. John shows how, when there isn’t a tightening within, an unpleasant experience can actually open deeper love, making it possible to flourish even in difficulty.
The questioner describes having been awakened to a deep energy of pure love within, and yet suffering still continues. John explains that the suffering is in the self, while the love is not. The love is your home. Your self suffers because it is not complete. You are complete. You don’t need to suffer. That puts your self in your care. Then, every difficulty that you have in your self will have you coming more deeply from the love that you’ve awakened to, within.
Does the presence of tears mean that you’re being emotional? No, says John, and he goes on to explain what emotions are for and what to look for when we’re deeply touched.
All you ever need to know about the opportunity of this life for our evolution as awareness, and the effects we’ll see later of squandering it.
This conversation is an invitation to realization and love. John shares why physical disability need not impede the richness of inner wellbeing that comes from being completely in your heart.
A profound conversation touching on the topics of parenthood, relationship and miscarriage that makes clear where our only real comfort comes from.
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
