What is love? How do we find it? Do we really need it? In this dialogue the questioner asks John to explain his statement “love is not an experience, love is what you are.” In response, John expands on the different kinds of love and how to go beyond the surface and discover a deep and subtle, unconditioned love not based on experience or need.
Both questioners in these dialogues are describing having powerful opening experiences after which they also experience pressure and difficulty. John explains that experiences are there to show us what we know.
– The importance of your experiences is what you know in them.
– When you have presence in unseen levels of you, you grow into the more of you.
– Pressure and difficulty are good, they that strengthen your root system.
– When you let your deeper levels come up your heart will come out and you will come in to life.
– New seeing: the beginning of a new perspective
– The opening of your thinking and your mind
– Thinking differently: a much higher level of thought
Being awakened is like being pregnant. When you are being your awakening, you develop a body of being that is like a baby you are able to hold and care for. When the baby matters more to you than all else, there is deep peace. In these dialogues, John explains how we can live that deep peace in life, a life no longer formed by good or bad things happening to us but by what we are being in it.
A young man describes having experienced deep, penetrating insights and wonderful awakenings. But when the experience passes he is back to his small hearted small minded self. How can he sustain these experiences?
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The questioner is pregnant and would like to really feel, open and soften to the being growing inside her. She feels cut off from feeling this as deeply as she actually can.
– This being communicates to you, bypassing your self. When you are about your self you will miss it. When you are quietly in your heart you will be moved and touched beyond your understanding.
– It’s a whole different level of communication.
– This is the most beautiful opportunity to listen to another being in a completely different way.
– Relating directly to your child, Being taught by your baby
– What you’ll come into as your baby is newly born is a paramount teaching.
– Get to know this other language: the only real language of parenting. You will make so many mistakes, but if you’re coming from within this language, all of your mistakes will be beautiful.
In all of your parenting, you don’t need to get everything right. You need to get into this language.
In this podcast the questioner speaks of his sense of readiness to connect more deeply and enter more of his being. John’s response takes us from a whisper of what’s deeper, beyond the perspective of our familiar selves, into unseen levels of love. After turning over control to our being, letting “incomprehensible being overtake your mind”, we come back to our everyday selves with a renewed awareness of the eternal nature of real connection.
People ask John questions after watching the movie Arrival. Topics discussed include:
• Real communication occurs when your heart and anything deeper fills your self. – limiting that infilling – is you limiting real communication.
• Within real communication, there is real listening… contingent on your heart and anything deeper.
• misinterpreting something – is conclusion that’s being drawn in your self that in your self you don’t know the truth of, so that conclusion doesn’t have the support of everything that’s deeper than your self.
• As soon as you’re coming from what’s deeper than your self what you come into is that it’s all done
• as soon as you apply that to what matters in your self you separate from what is all done, so you create something that isn’t real: illusion.
• Your self needs to be close to your heart and everything deeper… melts away what you think matters much.
• It’s for your self to take the shape of your heart and everything deeper
• as soon as your self is used to take the shape of what you like and don’t like, what you want and what you don’t want, your self as a separate form from your heart and everything deeper, turns into a kind of mobility and a power that offers no depth of meaning.
“When you are moving about in your life and your deepest listening is to what you quietly know within, you register these traces of your future self present in your life. It’s like a follow-through of commitment that carries through in your living. The new awakening and function of your brain is completely dependent on you being knowing in your life.”
In this dialogue the questioner speaks of having a sense of what is deeper inside him, and a readiness to connect more deeply. John’s response takes us from a whisper of what’s deeper, beyond the perspective of the familiar self, and into unseen levels of love. When we allow our being to be ‘in control’, we come back to our everyday selves with a renewed awareness of the eternal nature of real connection.
In this meeting John explains to the questioner how fear comes from a distortion in your self. He goes on to speak about how having self esteem is not necessary to evolve in your heart.
The questioner touches on her difficulty in dealing with and taking on other people’s pain. John explains that taking other people’s pain increases their pain, and that the only real way to end the cycle is to first address the cycle of pain and guilt in herself. The dialogue deepens and unfolds into the following topics:
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
