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It doesn’t matter much what you do in your life. That enables you to more quickly realize that your identity doesn’t come from what you do.

The whole relationship to an identity comes to rest and, instead of relating to an identity that’s fixed on what it achieves from doing, you are deeply rested awareness directly being, and it doesn’t come from any kind of doing.

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Is It Important to Work Hard and Be Successful?

February 9, 2018 @ 7:15pm

When we work hard, have projects and goals, it can be difficult not to be dependent on the outcome. Striving for success and a fear of failure – how to overcome this source of stress? In this talk John offers keys and codes on how to connect your life on the surface with deep inner beingness.

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John de Ruiter Podcast 626

Beyond Success and Failure: Moving from Clarity

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Is it possible to invest a lot of time and energy in a project and not be caught up with its success or failure? There's a quality of being that makes all the difference, and John explains.

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Real Help: Uncovering Goldenness In Another

February 1, 2023

Q: My question is about working with people. I’ve been creating art for many years and I feel things are changing; I want to open more, expand and create with people. Do you have anything to say about that? John: Don’t relate to helping people anymore. If you help someone, you’ll easily include a movement of your self. You’ll...

Q: My question is about working with people. I’ve been creating art for many years and I feel things are changing; I want to open more, expand and create with people. Do you have anything to say about that?

John: Don’t relate to helping people anymore. If you help someone, you’ll easily include a movement of your self. You’ll easily include a doing, using something that’s worked before; using something that you’ve learned. 

Instead of relating to helping someone, relate directly to meaning that’s presently there in the other, and that all you’re doing is removing a little bit of covering. It’s all about the meaning that’s there that you know and that you can see. 

If you help someone, you’ll easily put something of your self on someone. If you help, you’ll easily take while you’re giving. But if it’s meaning that you know and that you see in the other, and all you’re doing is removing a little bit of what covers it, then it is meaning that you’re using to uncover. You’re being meaning to meaning that you know and see. Your sense of self isn’t important in it, but in helping, your sense of self will have some importance. 

Q: Could you say more about meaning?

John: The meaning in another is their human goldenness: a concentration of humanness that has depth and quality, and it’s clean. It’s humanness right there in the other where it hasn’t been corrupted yet and it is just a little bit covered. When that’s real to you, then even a little movement toward the other uncovers a lot.  

What you are is like deep, quiet, still goodness that freely moves toward anyone, and no one needs your help. There, the littlest movement toward anyone is so good.

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Midnight Sky March 15, 2026 Afternoon

March 15, 2026

“In all of your relationships, no one needs to be fair with you but you will be fair with everyone.”   Fairness: first the shortcut, then realizing its nuances Being differently in the structure of identity Unbiased identity functional in a biased world Effectiveness is a fruit of being what is deeper Authentic thought comes together slowly; being slow to speak Okayness in gain and loss; perspective grows because of you...

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VOD Duration: 56 Minutes

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