A woman speaks the extreme difficulty of her circumstances: her husband is in a coma and she doesn’t know how to handle all it means, and parent her children through the crisis. John shows her how goodness can thrive in hardship and how this deeper perspective can be a nurturing ‘love school’ for them all.
What are the chakras or energy centres, and how do they relate to enlightenment? In this dialogue, John explains that the chakras are like gates. When they are closed we feel empty and stressed. When they are open, there is alignment and enlightenment.
A painful physical experience has woken this man up to his body and the power of love in healing. He’s shocked to see how he’s neglected his body and wants to change, but how? John encourages him to let his feelings of guilt create a love-relationship with his body starting with the simple enjoyment of being in it “in the little things”.
This questioner can feel daunted by the effects she fears her changing orientation might have on those she loves. How to live it in the workplace, too? There is a cost, John agrees, but with a gift just beneath it. He clarifies for her how to be in her changes with others.
This young woman knows she could deepen her connection with her unborn baby but doesn’t know how. John shows her the real language of parenting she can learn from her baby in the quiet of her heart. It not only opens the connection she longs for but will teach her what really matters in her own life, and in parenting her baby once born.
This man no longer finds satisfaction in things he once enjoyed and feels alone and separate. He fears losing his uniqueness if he stops all his doing. John shows him how only by being at home in his heart, as nobody and nothing, can he know his true uniqueness and be free of his genetics.
This questioner has been working hard and knows she needs to spend her time differently, but how? John shows her how time off can be spent in a repeating loop of self-rejuvenation, or be given to what has already made a difference: her awakening.
What is enlightenment? Is it the highest spiritual attainment as many perceive it to be? In this dialogue, John explains that it is not enlightenment, but purity of heart that is what we are in a body for: awareness and knowing being one.
“I’m haunted by my abusive past. How can I let it go?” John shows us how our beliefs are embodied in our nervous system, creating experience we make our reality. He shows how real healing doesn’t come from understanding but from something much simpler: unconditional openness and softness of heart.
This vivid conversation dives into the topic of a real relationship to power. John describes how most of us live as both victims and perpetrators. We create a life of stories and illusion, losing the opportunity to awaken and, more importantly, to build on that awakening before we die. He reveals the fundamental simplicity and rare value of living a real life.
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
