This man has been told that the world is a reflection of himself and doesn’t know how to deal with the rejection and unfriendliness he feels. John shows him what really matters and how he can heal himself and become a reflection of his own heart in the midst of this world and all his troubles.
Is it possible to let go of having been mistreated? This questioner feels angry about what happened in his career and is having a hard time finding forgiveness. John takes him to the root of what really matters, revealing the real cause of his separation and showing him the way home to his deep okayness within.
“I’m haunted by my abusive past. How can I let it go?” John shows us how our beliefs are embodied in our nervous system, creating experience we make our reality. He shows how real healing doesn’t come from understanding but from something much simpler: unconditional openness and softness of heart.
This vivid conversation dives into the topic of a real relationship to power. John describes how most of us live as both victims and perpetrators. We create a life of stories and illusion, losing the opportunity to awaken and, more importantly, to build on that awakening before we die. He reveals the fundamental simplicity and rare value of living a real life.
This man has experienced the disappointment of slipping into old patterns, letting love slip away, and ending up alone. Now in a new relationship, he wants to know how not to repeat that cycle.
“What is love?” is the question, and John’s response takes us first to the answer, and then into the many levels of love to be lived here in this life, and what remains after death. He then describes the purpose of integration and what is deeper, even, than being: what we are as meaning, aware … and moving.
Most of us experience emotional turmoil, destructive behaviour and mental difficulty in our lives from time to time. What is the cause of these states? How can we find equanimity of being in the midst of any situation? You, being the simplicity of this, is you directly resting into the beloved within.
“Let not your heart nor your self be a port for negativity.” This questioner has experienced the deeper ground she really belongs to, but can be overtaken by negativity. John shows her how to care for what she knows in her heart, even under pressure.
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
