This questioner asks John about going home within, to what we really are. Together, they travel through the levels of personality, the self, the nervous system, the mind, all the way to our real purpose of being here. It’s a lively dialogue, full of real answers.
How can a person make the shift from self-centredness to being the magicalness of what we really are? John shares what stands in the way, giving vivid examples of how to live in the midst of our preferences in a way that creates a real and beautiful self.
In what John describes as the legitimate and wonderful pull towards sexual union, there’s no room for want or need, hope or disappointment. This dialogue takes a deep dive into the topic of sexuality and power, and how it can all come to rest in a fully opened heart.
The man in this dialogue is ready to make whatever sacrifices necessary to let go of the self and move deeper into his being. He discusses with John his various practices, and the two-edged sword of any doing to be becomes clear. Together they arrive at the only way that works.
“The use of sexuality can easily become frustrating because it promises so much and delivers so little.” John describes what human sexuality is really for, and what it takes for us to move in the depth and subtlety of its full potential.
Even though his feelings can swing from one extreme to another, this man knows there is a place of stillness amongst it all. John describes what is happening and the only way of being that brings true stability and real self-control.
Unusual experiences that seem to come out of nowhere prompt the woman in this dialogue to seek John’s perspective. What’s happening and how can she live what she has newly awakened to in the busy-ness of her everyday life?
“The midnight being is you, there: you, before you came into this body, here, but wiped of all knowledge of what you were before. All you have as a being to live by are tiny, tiny little bits of direct knowledge that don’t offer you information. They offer you beautifully blind, original centredness which plays itself out in your humanness.”
Frustrated by a lack of understanding, this man feels he’s not getting the help he needs to connect with his heart and the honesty John speaks of. By way of a simple metaphor, John illustrates the way out of frustration into surrender.
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
