Q: Many years ago there was a deep opening that lasted some hours and then, after that, many years of meditation training in different Buddhist traditions. It’s become so clear to me that this training alone won’t take me where I wish to go, so even though there’s a quite solid knowing, there’s also a lot of resistance and much anxiety.
John: Understandably. Your present self isn’t made for what you, as awareness, are able to enter, so as you begin to enter what you’re knowing, within, the reality of that is difficult for your self. It’s difficult for the makeup of your self, and your self is able to change, so it’s not really a problem.
You have ground in your self that this which is occurring in you has nothing to do with. As this moves within, by your own knowing and by the openness of your heart, the ground in your self becomes profoundly disturbed. The shaking of the ground in your self enables you to realize deeper ground, within, than you had in your self.
There’s much more to you than what your self is, and than what you have in your self.
Your self isn’t bad: it just doesn’t, at present, have the capacity that you have, so when you’re profoundly opening within, that puts your self into what is profoundly not familiar, but it is for you, aside from your self, profoundly familiar.
Q: My challenge is to gradually change this self and I had also hoped for a more sudden change. It seems I’m simply not brave enough to let go of the self there. I’m not able to do it.
John: The sudden and immediate change that you’re able to make isn’t as a self. The shift is in you, as awareness, despite what kind of self you have.
Q: How do I move on? How do I put my focus on that priority?
John: By … as surrender in your heart to what you are knowing the truth of in your heart. That part has nothing to do with your self. It doesn’t require a shift or a change in your self. Those shifts, the shifts and the changes in your self, will come later.
The shift of awareness is a shift of orientation. Instead of, as awareness, being oriented to your self, you become oriented as awareness to what you know, even if you can’t see or understand what you know. It’s enough for you to surrender to what you know that you are knowing, within. The ground in that doesn’t come from your self. You won’t find it in your self. You don’t need your self for this.
The shift of orientation as awareness will cause your heart to ache. It’s a goodness ache. It’s because of your knowing, within, that your real ground, within, has little to do with what your self is, and in coming from that new ground, the ground in your self will heave. The ground in your self will break up and your ground, within – your ground of knowing as awareness – will replace the ground in your self, and from that your self will change.
The ache in the heart comes from awareness knowing so deeply … really knowing, without being able to see or understand, from the perspective that you have in your self, what that knowing even means. All that you know is that it’s real, it’s good and it’s there.
And as you’re realizing, you have support in that. In your self you can be quite alone in this, but in this you’re not alone.
629 – The First Light of Knowledge: Unconditionally Given to the Resonance of the Unknown
Only the subtlest resonance may remain from awareness in the sleep state, but John describes its power to connect us to what we really are – if we trust it unconditionally.
628 – Thriving as Love in What is Alien to Your Self
John meets questions and difficulties from experiences of a deeper reality, where it can be hard to distinguish the real from the imaginary. Do I even belong in this world?
627 – The Innermost Message of Anger: A Lovely Invitation from Within
Angry, frustrated or annoyed? In that moment, help is at hand. These feelings are lovely messengers bringing an invitation that can be easy to miss.
626 – Beyond Success and Failure: Moving from Clarity
Is it possible to invest a lot of time and energy in a project and not be caught up with its success or failure? There’s a quality of being that makes all the difference, and John explains.
625 – All-Weather Beingness: Inner Quietude Beyond Experience
Is there a way to stay connected to the deep while under pressure? John describes it as an all-weather beingness and explains how to become stabilized in its quiet nurture.
624 – The Awakening of Our Endless Consciousness
A question about enlightenment develops into an astonishing revelation of what our potential as consciousness really is, and it all begins with being given to the sweetest touch of tenderness.
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
