595 – When a Crumb of Truth in Your Heart is Your Home
John responds to a spiritual dilemma: a desperate longing for realization, coupled with the fear of nothingness that seems to come with it.
Q: Hi John. I want to ask about the connection between love and physical pain. I don’t have an actual question. The word that comes up for me is frustration and intensity.
John: There isn’t a connection. The love there in you, it’s you, is real and it’s able to be actual, but it doesn’t actualize in your life without you. The pain that’s there, mental or emotional or physical, is actual but it’s not real.
Q: I notice more than ever, lately, that the pain comes with the feeling of something lacking, that has to do with love in relationship.
John: It doesn’t. It has to do with your beliefs about love and where you would like to have it, but without you being given to it.
You believing that you need to be loved separates you from love. That belief, the belief that you need to be loved, love is incapable of relating to. The beingness that holds together the belief that you need to be loved is not a real beingness. If you relax within that beingness, that beingness stops. It ends. It’ll cease being actual because it is not real. If you don’t empower it, it ends. It’s actualized by what you put into it.
When that input ends because your input, your power, is given to what you really are, which is the beingness of love, all of your beliefs with all of their pain will end. Your whole belief system, your whole belief structure, is your pain management system. It keeps you in your pain. The pain makes much of your self and nothing of what you know, so that makes you, in your life, invisible. Without your belief system, you, what you really are in the midst of everything in your life, would be so visible. There’s no circumstance, no difficulty, no hardship, just no negative and no positive that can cover you.
Q: You say “belief system.” It sounds like something so big.
John: It’s bigger than big. It comprises the whole of your experience of your self.
Q: My complete experience of my self?
John: Your experience of your self, but not including your experience of your heart. But every thought and feeling that you have, every emotion you have, every little movement of will that you have that isn’t moved and governed by nurture is governed by your belief system, and none of that is real. It is an actual self that is so not real, and that self of yours belongs and is made for the real. It’s all made for the love, there, in you.
Q: I hear those voices all the time. I feel my heart and then I hear the voices and a lot of times I go to the voices because I feel like the heart would be too intimidating right now, would be wrong or too much.
John: The heart is not intimidating and the heart on its own doesn’t make anything wrong. When you’re in your heart and you stay there while you’re in your self, that will definitely bring up the vulnerability of your self. It’ll bring up all of the lack that is there in your self. It’ll bring it up into your nervous system and into your experience and while that’s there, because you are in your heart, remain opening and softening in your heart. This is your life. You have no other real life. This enables you to continue where you left off when you left your innocence.
Follow this through, live from within your heart, unconditionally, at any personal expense, and you will lose all of the edges that you’ve used to define your sense of individuality that you’ve used to define your self. It’ll bring you right back, within your interior, that will show in your face and in your eyes. It’ll bring you right back to essence of baby, developing as an adult.
Q: I’m ready to lose my individuality. My heart is ready and I’m ready, but my body’s, like, twenty steps behind.
John: You’ve trained it that way. But if you’re being deeply clear, based only on what you know in your heart, your body will all open just like you. Your body will come along with you; your body opens as you really do.
When you ‘sort of’ open, your body then also ‘sort of’ opens. What you register in that is where all of the tightness is, that isn’t opening. When you ‘sort of’ open, that shows you where the tightness is. When you open all the way through, a complete, unconditioned opening, what you see with your body is how open everything really is. With your whole body you register everything that is real.
That’s your being filling your body. It’s your life as a body of being.
595 – When a Crumb of Truth in Your Heart is Your Home
John responds to a spiritual dilemma: a desperate longing for realization, coupled with the fear of nothingness that seems to come with it.
594 – Fully Present in Your Body, Fully Present in Your Heart
Closing down to the experience of vulnerability can mean dissociating from the body. John shares a simple way to become more present however uncomfortable we feel.
593 – Honest to the Way of Your Heart
An exploration of how honesty and an open, soft heart are connected, taking us ever deeper into the unseen roots we could remain in forever.
591 – The Truth About Compassion
When is compassion self-centred, when is it real, and how can we tell? An exploration of what it means to be truly compassionate.
590 – Can I Return to My Awakening Experience?
One profound experience of a different level of consciousness had a profound impact on this person. How did it happen and can it be experienced again?
589 – Starting Over: Living Your Awakening Before You Die
After many years on a spiritual path, this person is no longer interested in more teachings. Can there really be nothing to do? John describes what stands in the way of living our awakening, and the value of doing that before we die.
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
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