A woman speaks the extreme difficulty of her circumstances: her husband is in a coma and she doesn’t know how to handle all it means, and parent her children through the crisis. John shows her how goodness can thrive in hardship and how this deeper perspective can be a nurturing ‘love school’ for them all.
This mother’s wish to protect her baby son’s purity from the world reveals what it takes to be the best kind of parent she can be, and how this establishes the foundation her child will need as he grows.
Q: You’ve spoken about understanding the world and how it works, and then both moving and seeing beyond it. This world is hardly understandable for me, so can you guide me a little in how to be with my child as he starts to discover the world?
John: By you remaining in your heart you guide him into a heart understanding toward those in this world who are being just like this world.
Instead of him becoming fearful because of what people are easily like, when you guide him into a heart understanding you relieve him of his fear and the depth in him of feeling goes into compassion. He won’t fear being hurt by others. You’ll be introducing him to his deeper levels and to draw from them while he sees what others are being and doing.
Q: Sometimes he asks why things are that way. I’m already working with my reactions to it, but how can I bring my heart to helping him see with his heart? What do I say when he asks me why people do that to each other?
John: Because they’re believing something that isn’t true. That belief controls their behaviour. Without any beliefs you naturally relax into your heart. Beliefs of any kind force a performance that isn’t based in reality.
Q: Forcing a performance or going into reactivity?
John: And living for something that has nothing to do with the heart. Whatever someone invests in that, keeps them from returning to their heart.