Q: I experience my self as a very shy person. How I can adjust my shyness so that it doesn’t restrict me in certain situations? John: Don’t adjust it or change it. Don’t cover it. Don’t be ashamed of it, and whatever that restricts…
Location: Yehiam
What is the connection between opening the heart and love-making? When you open and soften in your heart, you discover the deeper levels. The woman pours her mystery and the man reads her and receives. Together, you get to know what you really are. Together, you are making what love is.
The questioner feels connected to her heart when she is being silent, but when she speaks she feels disconnected. How to speak from the heart? John explains how we are able to open our hearts in the midst of our life, regardless of the experience in our selves. We are able to not close even when there’s pain or discomfort. If we are okay with the cost of that, our selves will change, grow, develop, and purify.
An informal, lively dialogue opening up the topic of sexual appetite versus real lovemaking, and the necessity of moving in what you really know.
John de Ruiter speaks about the basics of his teaching, describing how awareness naturally relaxes and reaches deeper levels of consciousness.
John explains how we in essence are awareness and how his teaching shows people how to live from the inside outward, as awareness in its forms.
Meditation requires a still body and mind, while ‘opening and softening in the heart’ brings awareness deeper in any circumstance. In meditation, the self is the frame of reference. In meetings, the frame of reference is the being.
Living in your heart has no dependence on physical health, but simply opening and softening in the midst of good or bad health.
Meetings with John feature movements of love and nurture, a shift in relating to a subtle, a quieted, a deeper level.
