How can we open our heart toward another when there are unpleasant emotions involved? John explains how the need to diminish these negative feelings only feeds them and that it is possible to flourish, deepen and develop in the midst of any difficulty.
The imminent death of her mother opens for this woman the wish to heal their relationship, to know and be together in their bond before she dies. John shows her how easy it is, and speaks of the timeless, incorruptible nature of our bonds.
A question about the difference between knowing and being opens into a grand, detailed tour of the levels of our being, the relationship between awareness and knowing, the powers of the masculine and feminine, and the magical, transformative nature of the self. Now you know how to be what you were born for.
“Difficulty sends you to your resources …” John explains the evolutionary opportunity of this life and why, when we die, we’ll be indebted to the difficulties encountered.
“The consummate human being doesn’t just come into areas of expertise on the surface. The consummate human being is a whole being free within all of its self, a whole self integrated by a whole being.”
“Dearness is the beingness that you’re one with while you’re together, the part in your relationship that is everything.”
“What makes the forms of your self so perfect and beautiful is that they are forms of change.”
“Once your body has come to rest, what remains is just you, meeting with what is outside of you. There you don’t have strengths and weaknesses, just you with the subtle movements of your own being.”
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
