Q: Hi, John. I feel I’ve taken steps in living more from what I am instead of from what I have, and I also really want that. I feel that parts of me are holding back: fears that people that I love will leave. I also find it very difficult to live from what I am in the work atmosphere, and I was wondering if you could help me with overcoming that.
John: You need to be complete in your orientation. In coming from what you really are, knowing and knowledge are everything, so then to be what you know and do what you know is your expression. Being and doing so isn’t going to be without real cost, personal cost.
The gift is just beneath the cost. The greater the cost that you face, the greater the gift to welcome you. If you’re focused on the cost and the loss, you’ll not be seeing the real opportunity. If you’re focused on the real opportunity, the cost, as real as it is, fades and passes away as you move through it.
The best that you can do for those who are close to you is for you to be and do what you know the truth of, and to develop in that. If you have any reserve in your heart you will make difficult what is easy. The more all-in you are, the more that being and doing what you know will be in all of the details. You will come alive in subtleties.
You don’t need to be understood by others. You need only to give kind and fair explanation. It isn’t for you to make the other understand. You don’t need to be persuasive or convincing; just open and soft and clear. Your base is real knowledge and your heart is that of beingness.
In living by that, your life will change, your self will change and your person will change. Nothing else needs to change. No one else needs to see and no one else needs to change. Your being and doing what you know the truth of in your heart and your clarity is your gift, within, and then your gift to others. No one needs to receive it.
Set the compass in your self by what you know within and, without compromise, like living by that.
597 – The Person, the Self and the Being: Identifying the Many Levels of You (Part 1)
Person, self, being … what’s the difference and what is real? Using different analogies, John explains how our different levels connect and shares the code to being what we really are.
596 – Beyond Sadness and Pain: Happy Without a Reason
John reveals the source of the deep well of sadness and pain this person carries, and shares how she can reconnect with her original happiness.
595 – When a Crumb of Truth in Your Heart is Your Home
John responds to a spiritual dilemma: a desperate longing for realization, coupled with the fear of nothingness that seems to come with it.
594 – Fully Present in Your Body, Fully Present in Your Heart
Closing down to the experience of vulnerability can mean dissociating from the body. John shares a simple way to become more present however uncomfortable we feel.
593 – Honest to the Way of Your Heart
An exploration of how honesty and an open, soft heart are connected, taking us ever deeper into the unseen roots we could remain in forever.
591 – The Truth About Compassion
When is compassion self-centred, when is it real, and how can we tell? An exploration of what it means to be truly compassionate.
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
