Divorce: can being with a different partner fulfil all it seems to promise? Is there any truth to what feels like a soul connection? A dialogue full of big questions, deeply and delicately answered.
Openings come and go, bringing with them great changes in perspective and love, yet in our selves things often stay the same. What can be done? John’s answer draws the questioner away from trying to change her self, showing her what really works: unconditional openness from the inside out.
From seed to fruit, by way of uncompromising willingness and devotion, John describes the journey of transformation travelled as we’re given again and again to growing the tree of love, within.
All the ways that we can be honest – but only so far – show up in this dialogue, but it’s only core-splitting honesty that takes us all the way to what we really are. It’s the end of reality as we’ve known it, and the beginning of a very different life.
Meeting John has opened a quiet depth that this man loves and has never experienced before. He wonders how he can live without his lifelong focus on results. John takes him beyond the “who” that he’s become, into the truth of the “what” that he really is.
The imminent death of her mother opens for this woman the wish to heal their relationship, to know and be together in their bond before she dies. John shows her how easy it is, and speaks of the timeless, incorruptible nature of our bonds.
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
