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Are You Romanticizing Spirituality?

July 21, 2021 @ 12:00am

“The truth within is first all romanticized, until you’re in the desert, where all self-consolation, self-promise, self-hope has expired, and there you are in the quietude of your heart in a depth of listening within. You need no results. You need no fruit. You need no light at the end of the tunnel. You need no promise of anything. All you are is true. There’s nothing else to you, and the beingness of that is love. Love, all on its own, naturally undaunted by absolutely anything. That’s what you really are.”

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John de Ruiter Podcast 642

Your Sweet Return to the Delicacies of Being

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In this conversation, John meets the many concerns that one can have about living in this world from delicate beingness, and explains how this is actually how we flourish the most.

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Young People Speak With John: On Fear And Anger

April 14, 2023

Two young people put their questions to John at an open mic: Q1: What is fear? John: When you focus on something that’s not nurturing and real inside, then you separate from what’s nurturing and real. As soon as you’re separate from what’s nurturing and real, you’ll fear because the nurture and the real isn’t there, so what you’re...

Two young people put their questions to John at an open mic:

Q1: What is fear?

John: When you focus on something that’s not nurturing and real inside, then you separate from what’s nurturing and real. As soon as you’re separate from what’s nurturing and real, you’ll fear because the nurture and the real isn’t there, so what you’re left with is lack that’s represented in your emotions.

When you have fear that means that you’ve created some distance from what’s nurtureful inside, such as a restedness, a really quiet okayness, a tenderness. Go away from tenderness inside and you’ll fear. Inside of the tenderness there is no fear. 

Q2: How do I handle my anger?

John: In one way the feeling of anger is really good because it quickly tells you that you’re believing something that’s not true. So as soon as you feel angry, let go of everything that you’re thinking until your heart becomes open and settled again. As soon as your heart is opened and settled again, you’re really there. While you’re angry your heart is closed and hard, and you’re no longer really there in your heart. 

When you’re angry, you’re caught in something that isn’t real. As soon as you’re angry, let go of what you’re thinking and what you’re feeling. As soon as you do, your heart opens again. When your heart is open, instead of being upset, you’ll love.

When you’re angry, what that really means is that you’ve tricked your self.  You’ve tricked your self into believing something that isn’t true and that isn’t real. 

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John de Ruiter Audio 424

The Transformative Effect of One Atom of Love

August 30, 2025

“What you are is infinitely super, absolutely, merely, love.”

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Midnight Sky Weekend Event September 21, 2025, Afternoon

September 21, 2025

 “The more context you have for the real in you, the more that you rest. Without depth of context, the personal feels so much without being able to sort it all.”   You’re here to change; changing what change is The train car analogy; the availability of onboarding The effect of depth of context on the personal The connection between self-esteem and competition within Turning into instead of measuring up to the truth you know Personalness able to listen...

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