601 – Don’t Go Figure, Go Sweetly Within
Sometimes, figuring things out doesn’t work in the way we expect. Dissolving core patterns is one example of this, and John explains why.
Q: John, are we all one?
John: Yes. But that’s very different from all of us really being there. On a deeper level within, yes we are all one, but if we live being separate from what our being is then we will all be separate, separate from our beings, separate from the heart, separate from each other, separate from meaning, separate from goodness. Able to be one, but won’t.
The way to oneness anywhere that there is separation, is through openness and softness of heart. So the beginning of oneness is opening in the heart. As you are being that, openness and softness of heart, you are, right within the entrance to your being. As you, through that openness and that softness, come into your being, what you are also coming into is our being.
Q: When you say our being, do you mean, one and the same, of the same kind?
John: Yes. As you open and soften in your heart, despite all of the differences that you can have with everyone around you, it’s through that openness and softness of heart that you begin to come into what is the same in all of us, whether we are all there or not. As you come into that sameness, despite what differences are there, you start to see that sameness in others, even if they’re not being it, even if they’re covering it. By being it, your eyes open, you begin to see it. It enables you to feel for others even when they are closing and hardening.
All the ways in which we perceive ourselves as being so different from each other, it’s all actual; they’re actual differences. None of that is real. To be given to those differences is to be given to illusion. It’s only when you’re given to the sameness within that is actually there in everyone that you are being real. The real isn’t in our selves; the real begins within the open and soft heart. That openness and softness of heart that moves freely within our thinking or feeling, our use of will and emotion, is then realness, having presence in ourselves, slowly making our selves real or making ourselves by what we are being in ourselves, the same as our being. Instead of our selves being so different from our beings, by being the same as our beings, in the midst of our selves, our selves slowly become the same as our being. Being, in form. So in that way, instead of our selves being merely actual, our selves become real. And our beings, instead of just being real, become actualized in our selves.
Q: Would you call that illumination?
John: Transformation. Awareness, as it opens, becomes illuminated, filled with light. Awareness opening and being filled with light, in the midst of the heart, fills the heart with light. That light-filled awareness, and that light-filled heart that is dwelling within the self, fills the self with light. Your self becomes what you are being in it. In that way, it doesn’t matter what condition your self is in, it doesn’t matter what you’ve done to your self, it doesn’t matter what others have done to your self. What really matters is what you are being in your self.
Q: Thank you.
601 – Don’t Go Figure, Go Sweetly Within
Sometimes, figuring things out doesn’t work in the way we expect. Dissolving core patterns is one example of this, and John explains why.
600 – Out of Your Comfort Zone, Into Your Heart
A perplexing and destructive habit is the focus of this dialogue. What could be so threatening about being touched by goodness?
599 – Parenting: What Your Child Really Wants from You
John responds to a mother’s wish to understand why her young daughter still seems unhappy, despite her best efforts at parenting.
598 – The Person, the Self and the Being: Identifying the Many Levels of You (Part 2)
This dialogue is a continuation of last week’s podcast 597. John speaks about what ego is, the power we have to create mystery to conceal what is clear, and what takes us deeper than personal integrity.
597 – The Person, the Self and the Being: Identifying the Many Levels of You (Part 1)
Person, self, being … what’s the difference and what is real? Using different analogies, John explains how our different levels connect and shares the code to being what we really are.
596 – Beyond Sadness and Pain: Happy Without a Reason
John reveals the source of the deep well of sadness and pain this person carries, and shares how she can reconnect with her original happiness.
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
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