This is a question about sex and intimacy. The questioner feels she resists intimacy and doesn’t understand why, when love-making is full of sweetness, she still seems to avoid it. John shows her how to look for what she trusts. Where there is trust, love moves.
Exploring the characters and concepts in the movie “Locke”.
– Moving by clarity, under pressure
– Lived-in clarity that is paid for through time and troubles
– If someone is living being really clear, they are generally not distracted.
– If the heart closes then there is no heart in the self.
– A heartless self: A less than human self.
– It’s an open heart that gives the self its humanness
– Separation begins at a subtle level.
– When awareness, on its own, turns away from what it knows, that manifests as a closing in the heart. It shows first in the heart, then in the self.
– Empowering direct knowledge into clarity and empowering clarity into our selves:it’s simple but it costs a lot.
– Relying on clarity is the step right into the self.
– Authentic kindness isn’t learned, it’s a fruit of being.
– The main character coming to love, where he didn’t want to.
The questioner is noticing a subtle uncomfortable movement of his sexuality, and is asking if it’s best to stay in it as still as a lake. John explains that our conscious self is only the tip of the iceberg. When you deeply open, this allows for your subconscious to come up into your conscious self. It’s like a deep lake doing a ‘flip’: the deep comes to the surface while the surface goes into the deep. That flip is made possible by you belonging to your heart. This is how you get to know your self. It is the transformation of your self.
“What you are being in your self is what your self becomes. This is the freedom not just of your being to have your self, but for your being to have your superpower and your self; that the linking of the fields of your sexuality is the change of your self. Within it are all of the codes to make your self just like your being.“
