Q: What you’ve been speaking to us about, beingness, I resonate with and find it easy sometimes, but there are two different worlds that I seem to be living in: one is that, and the other is the day-to- day work and kids and busy-ness. I want to know if you would speak to meshing those two worlds.
John: Just one, sweetly, before the other – the one sweetly mattering more than the other in a way that is, in weakness, immovable. Your life and your self as you’ve known it, will pass away. What you really are, and your being, won’t. That tells you what your self and your life are for. Your self and your life belong to what won’t pass away, but you won’t be in that unless you’re living that.
Whatever it is that you give your energy to is what you mean, in life, regardless of what you think. That makes your mental beliefs of little import. What will really matter in your last hour deathbed, when you’re quieted in it, is not so much what you’ve done with your life and what you’ve done with your self. What will matter to you is what you’ve done with your heart, and, deeper than that, what you’ve done with your awakenings. To bring the two together, live with your death dearly in your heart. It helps you to see what you, deep within, know matters most.
Q: My mind goes to: how do I act and what do I do? What do I make of my life?
John: First, it doesn’t really matter what you do with your life. What career you have matters little. Any creative venture that you enter matters little. What you are being in the midst of whatever it is you do matters everything.
When you’re open and soft in your heart, when you’re being what you really are, you absolutely will do. There’s no greater impetus to doing and to action than being what you really are in the midst of whatever self you have. It’s what you easily see in little children. They don’t need a plan for their day. You could curtail whatever it is that they’re doing and they’ll just spring to life in something else. It doesn’t actually matter much to them what they do. They love doing – if they’re still at home, within.
You know how to merge the two. You used to be really little. No one had to teach you how. That’s when you were easily happy without a reason, and that creatively showed up in whatever you did. Whatever it is that you do in your life belongs to your being. Move into a personal sense of sovereignty and then it wouldn’t matter what you do, you’ll easily get lost.
629 – The First Light of Knowledge: Unconditionally Given to the Resonance of the Unknown
Only the subtlest resonance may remain from awareness in the sleep state, but John describes its power to connect us to what we really are – if we trust it unconditionally.
628 – Thriving as Love in What is Alien to Your Self
John meets questions and difficulties from experiences of a deeper reality, where it can be hard to distinguish the real from the imaginary. Do I even belong in this world?
627 – The Innermost Message of Anger: A Lovely Invitation from Within
Angry, frustrated or annoyed? In that moment, help is at hand. These feelings are lovely messengers bringing an invitation that can be easy to miss.
626 – Beyond Success and Failure: Moving from Clarity
Is it possible to invest a lot of time and energy in a project and not be caught up with its success or failure? There’s a quality of being that makes all the difference, and John explains.
625 – All-Weather Beingness: Inner Quietude Beyond Experience
Is there a way to stay connected to the deep while under pressure? John describes it as an all-weather beingness and explains how to become stabilized in its quiet nurture.
624 – The Awakening of Our Endless Consciousness
A question about enlightenment develops into an astonishing revelation of what our potential as consciousness really is, and it all begins with being given to the sweetest touch of tenderness.
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
