Q: For quite some time, actually, I’ve experienced some fairly massive, episodic openings and happiness and peace I’ve never known – no matter what’s playing. During these episodes there’s great love and compassion for humanity and the human condition, and yet on an individual level I remain indifferent, as a general rule, to people. I still feel myself as a separate being, and so clearly there’s work to be done. No?
John: You can, but that will further the condition of your self. As soon as you relate to work needing to be done, you’ll use your capacity to do; you’ll use your strengths. Whatever it is that you use is what becomes stronger. It will add to the sophistication of the conditioning in your self. A sophisticated conditioning replaces a basic conditioning, so in that way it makes your self worse.
What you’re experiencing is all symptomatic of your opening being conditional. The answer isn’t for you to work on anything or to do anything. The answer is all in the opening, the softening: you opening and softening without filters, without boundaries, without any conditions of your self. You no longer opening on the terms of your self, but on the terms of your being, which is entire opening – such openness that is free to have all of your heart, all of your self, all of your person, all of your personality, all of your conditioning and your whole life. That will work, because it is all authentically from the inside out.
This is all based on you being what you are, after you’ve died, while you live. It’s you being everything that is real out into everything that’s yours that is actual but not real yet. This requires no path, no therapy, no healing, no techniques, no change of your self. This requires only you being completely rested, as awareness, in your heart; you returning to being what you really are, and being that unconditionally all the way out into your forms.
This moves and flows and really functions in the same way that you see the innocence of a small child. It’s all clean, and free of any kind of outward process. It’s clean of any kind of doing to be, and this clean, deep, free beingness naturally moves into doing, but that which does isn’t the same as what used to do.
Instead of a person that has a self and a heart and a being, doing, it is a being that has a heart, a self and a person, doing: a profound shift of awareness, followed all the way through, that makes the entire difference.
Q: I feel some sense of what you’re saying. I’m very grateful. Thank you.
597 – The Person, the Self and the Being: Identifying the Many Levels of You (Part 1)
Person, self, being … what’s the difference and what is real? Using different analogies, John explains how our different levels connect and shares the code to being what we really are.
596 – Beyond Sadness and Pain: Happy Without a Reason
John reveals the source of the deep well of sadness and pain this person carries, and shares how she can reconnect with her original happiness.
595 – When a Crumb of Truth in Your Heart is Your Home
John responds to a spiritual dilemma: a desperate longing for realization, coupled with the fear of nothingness that seems to come with it.
594 – Fully Present in Your Body, Fully Present in Your Heart
Closing down to the experience of vulnerability can mean dissociating from the body. John shares a simple way to become more present however uncomfortable we feel.
593 – Honest to the Way of Your Heart
An exploration of how honesty and an open, soft heart are connected, taking us ever deeper into the unseen roots we could remain in forever.
591 – The Truth About Compassion
When is compassion self-centred, when is it real, and how can we tell? An exploration of what it means to be truly compassionate.
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
