What is the relationship for, what needs to go and what needs to thrive? John gives the couple in this dialogue a new purpose: to be a love team. He shows them how it will take them into a relationship of real belonging, mutual enchantment and adoration.
This man has had vivid experiences on his spiritual journey but it has taken a lot of energy. He feels disconnected from everyday things, making difficult even his wish to find a partner. John shows him where the problem lies, how to be with his spiritual experiences, and how to become ready for a real relationship.
This man has been told that the world is a reflection of himself and doesn’t know how to deal with the rejection and unfriendliness he feels. John shows him what really matters and how he can heal himself and become a reflection of his own heart in the midst of this world and all his troubles.
This woman is touched by John sharing what sexuality is really for and wants to know what it means to be a woman. John shares the subtle differences between man and woman, and shows her how to invite and move in her sexuality anew – this time aligned to the delicacies of its deeper mystery.
John gives a surprising response to this young man’s wish to be free of his addictions. Don’t stop! But he leaves the questioner with the key to his heart, and the freedom he’s looking for.
Is it possible to let go of having been mistreated? This questioner feels angry about what happened in his career and is having a hard time finding forgiveness. John takes him to the root of what really matters, revealing the real cause of his separation and showing him the way home to his deep okayness within.
A man is asking how to quit his bad habits which are hurting his health. John explains that it isn’t about quitting the habit, it is about being in your heart. John further explains in practical detail how to be in your heart while smoking, for example, and how this will have the heart gain mastery over self and person.
This dialogue addresses a woman’s question of whether or not to have a child. John shows her all the complexities she would be taking on and shares the possibility of raising a child with opened genetics, through being the grace of her own deepest orientation.
How can I live in what I know of beingness, and the busy-ness of daily life? John’s response takes the questioner to see what he will know on his deathbed, when what matters most will be clear and can be lived for, now.
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
