Meeting John has opened a quiet depth that this man loves and has never experienced before. He wonders how he can live without his lifelong focus on results. John takes him beyond the “who” that he’s become, into the truth of the “what” that he really is.
One of the most common misunderstandings people face is the belief that a relationship will complete them. This dialogue reveals why that isn’t so and how being fundamentally free of this misconception is the beginning of true readiness for a meaningful relationship.
The woman in this dialogue describes being stuck in the pain and sadness she feels after the loss of her relationship. John shows her the true source of her sadness doesn’t lie in her circumstance but rather in the power she has given to false beliefs.
“You have only the time in your life here to know, to realize, to be, and to become. And then you die. It’s a short time. The importance of being here in a body, in a self, doesn’t come from your body, your self, your genetics, the development of any of that, and your life. The importance of being here in all of that resides in you. You’re here to be what you are after you’ve died, but while you live, in the midst of levels and levels of physicalized environment that isn’t like you.”
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
