How to be open when someone is unkind to us? The invitation is to open in the little things in life: tiny doors in your life that are easy to open. You will discover a warm okayness, even in the midst of feeling not okay.
Being awakened is like being pregnant. When you are being your awakening, you develop a body of being that is like a baby you are able to hold and care for. When the baby matters more to you than all else, there is deep peace. In these dialogues, John explains how we can live that deep peace in life, a life no longer formed by good or bad things happening to us but by what we are being in it.
A young man describes having experienced deep, penetrating insights and wonderful awakenings. But when the experience passes he is back to his small hearted small minded self. How can he sustain these experiences?
In this meeting John explains to the questioner how fear comes from a distortion in your self. He goes on to speak about how having self esteem is not necessary to evolve in your heart.
The questioner touches on her difficulty in dealing with and taking on other people’s pain. John explains that taking other people’s pain increases their pain, and that the only real way to end the cycle is to first address the cycle of pain and guilt in herself. The dialogue deepens and unfolds into the following topics:
In this Q&A dialogue, John speaks about how to stay in the heart when others attack or offend you.
The dialogue covers several topics including:
• Reactivity and polarization. The reactivity betrays a false, illusory investment.
• Being honest to your self blinds you.
• Being beautifully vulnerable: No filters, no boundaries, no shields, no protection of any kind – you will feel everything. Everything that touches your self from anyone, from anything, is free to go right into you, right through you.
• Instead of reacting – open. When someone loves you – open. When someone is nasty to you – open. Then you are being what you really are.
In this Q&A dialogue the questioner ask about her fear of death. John speaks on several topics including:
• Speak of what you like, instead of saying what you don’t like.
• Thrive in what you like on every level, right down to the really little things.
“My sole purpose is to be, in life, what we are after we’ve died. Through openness and softness of heart and core-splitting honesty at any personal cost, I live as that while actualizing the same in others I meet. I am available as a resource for anyone who recognizes and values this way of being.”
– John de Ruiter
