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Staying True to the Sunshine of Awakening
March 7, 2021 @ 11:00am
Using the analogy of awakening as the experience of golden sunshine, John explains what’s happening when clouds seem to cover it, and how to remain oriented to your love of the sun.
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“What is love?” is the question, and John’s response takes us first to the answer, and then into the many levels of love to be lived here in this life, and what remains after death. He then describes the purpose of integration and what is deeper, even, than being: what we are as meaning, aware … and moving.
Most of us experience emotional turmoil, destructive behaviour and mental difficulty in our lives from time to time. What is the cause of these states? How can we find equanimity of being in the midst of any situation? You, being the simplicity of this, is you directly resting into the beloved within.
In this dialogue, John explains that the increased tension the questioner feels in his life has to do with his created sense of identity through a belief in fairness, giving him an illusory sense of personal entitlement. John goes on to explain how a belief in fairness naturally requires you to be on the lookout for unfairness, causing a closing of your heart and creating a source of tension in your life.
Questioners ask John about the inability to forgive and move on from an abusive relationship, what to do with feelings of self doubt and hatred, and how to deal with an inflamed self. John speaks about self importance, the concept of holding oneself as more important than others, as the cause of negative emotions, and an obstacle to being in the heart.
In this meeting John explains to the questioner how fear comes from a distortion in your self. He goes on to speak about how having self esteem is not necessary to evolve in your heart.
The questioner touches on her difficulty in dealing with and taking on other people’s pain. John explains that taking other people’s pain increases their pain, and that the only real way to end the cycle is to first address the cycle of pain and guilt in herself. The dialogue deepens and unfolds into the following topics:
- Being quietly okay in the midst of pain.
- Letting go of listening to your self.
- Openness and softness of heart.
- Not to live taking to heart what you feel but taking to heart beingness that you most quietly know within.
In this Q&A dialogue, John speaks about how to stay in the heart when others attack or offend you.
The dialogue covers several topics including:
• Reactivity and polarization. The reactivity betrays a false, illusory investment.
• Being honest to your self blinds you.
• Being beautifully vulnerable: No filters, no boundaries, no shields, no protection of any kind – you will feel everything. Everything that touches your self from anyone, from anything, is free to go right into you, right through you.
• Instead of reacting – open. When someone loves you – open. When someone is nasty to you – open. Then you are being what you really are.
In this Q&A dialogue after watching the movie “The Tiger: An Old Hunter’s Tale” the questioner asks about how to let go of the false story you’ve let define you and truly live life to the fullest.
In this talk John talks about how to bring your spiritual awakening into your everyday life. He describes moving from within your heart, through the difficulties experienced on the surface levels, when bringing your awakening into form.
John speaks about deepening our spiritual awakening even while we’re feeling inadequate. Nothing needs to stop our spiritual awakening. It doesn’t matter if it temporarily makes us socially inept.
“You may lose their confidence in you and your confidence in your self, while you are really fattening up on beingness.”
John continues by saying “You’re losing what you don’t need while the roots of awareness are growing.”
This is a great introductory talk for people who are experiencing a lack of emotions but who wish to find deeper levels of consciousness and spiritual awakening.
John talks about how to relate to trauma during a crisis. He speaks to the repetitive nature of trauma as it re-occurs like in the movie “Groundhog Day”, and how we can open and love within that trauma, or get lost in “The Matrix”.
In this dialogue a questioner asks John about how to heal depression. Recorded at ABC Carpet & Home in New York.
